Is this really an ugly name?

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Registered: 01-16-2005
Is this really an ugly name?
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Sun, 01-16-2005 - 10:54pm
I am having the most trouble with finding a baby name for a girl.My husband and I really like the name Natalia.The thing is my whole family hates it. They say she will hate it for the rest of her life, and I need to choose something else; my family is very controlive in my choices, and it seems like they are never happy with MY choices in life. My mom says to name her Jasmine, but my husband does not like it as much as Natalia. My husband says to forget about what they say, but he is not the one that has to hear the bit**ing from my family.Any advices?????

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Registered: 08-01-2003
Mon, 01-17-2005 - 12:06pm

first of all, no, it's not ugly at all. when I saw the header to your post, I thought I was going to be seeing some really out there, unusual, unheard of name. Natalia is a beautiful name, very pretty sound. just because your mom happens to like the name Jasmine doesn't mean she can force you to use it. it's your baby, you can name her whatever you like.

after trumping around on this board for a while, I'm starting to think everyone ought to keep the names they have in mind for their babies a complete secret from all family and friends until after the baby is born and officially named.

even if the name did happen to be ugly, it's the PARENTS choice, not the friends, not the grandparents

but in this case, I can't see a thing wrong with Natalia.

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Registered: 04-07-2003
Mon, 01-17-2005 - 12:11pm
If you both like it, you need to use it. If they don't shut up you're going to have to tell them, they named their kids and they don't have to like the names you pick. They'll get used to it when there is a face with a name. This is why I always advise against sharing your name picks-everyone thinks you want/need their opinion.





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Registered: 04-01-2003
Mon, 01-17-2005 - 12:42pm

Its YOUR baby and YOUR choice of what to name her. Don't let your family push you around on this or they will try to control everyting about this baby.

Just stop having discussion about names with them. If they ask, just say" we will announce it when she arrives"

KIM

PS I think Natalia is beautiful -and as for Jasmine-Yuck

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Bridget Ila-Alison

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Registered: 07-15-2004
Mon, 01-17-2005 - 12:59pm

Natalia is a beautiful name. I work with a Natalia who loves her name, and she's in her 40's. It's an classic name, not trendy, and will probably be "in" someday as much as Jasmine is now.

Your baby's name is not your family's business, also in my opinion. Your mother had her chance to name her children, and you should have that same chance. Don't let her and the rest of your family dictate to you. Name YOUR baby what YOU love!

As a PP said, maybe it's best to keep the names to yourself from now on. If they ask, say you and your husband will announce the baby's name after the birth.

Good luck! Don't let them get you down.

Kira

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Registered: 01-17-2005
Mon, 01-17-2005 - 2:20pm
No matter what name you choose, someone will hate it. I think the only consideration is the child and he or she having to live with a name that is horrible, but Natalia is quite pretty(IMO). Funny but when I was pregnant with my first son almsot 9 years ago my mother advised me to not tell anyone what I was naming him b/c everyone would discourage me. She pushed and pushed for Benjamin (which I didnt like or choose) and when I named my son she made it clear that she hated his name. I told her I didnt care. Now she will say that no other name fits him. YOU and your dh name your baby. Good luck
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Registered: 01-17-2005
Mon, 01-17-2005 - 9:02pm
Tell your mom that if she likes the name Jasmine so much, she should have given you that name (or one of your sisters if you have any). The bottom line is, she had her kids, named them, raised them and now it is your turn. YOU are the one carrying, laboring, delivering and raising your daughter and YOU and your husband are the only two who get to decide on a name. Suggestions and opinions may be welcome and considered, but it is ultimately your decision and your mom will have to get over it. The only reason ANYONE says "she'll hate that name for the rest of her life" is because "I don't like it" isn't a good enough reason to convince anyone what not to name their kid. Natalia is BEAUTIFUL. I don't think she will hate it. If you and your husband agree, go with it. After about a year, my mother in law finally got over me naming my daughter Billie (she hated that it was a boy name). She is trying to put her two cents in on my new baby's name, but my husband and I learned from experience - we haven't told a soul what her name will be. The family will find out when the ink is dry on the birth certificate. If you are a grown woman with a family of her own, you can only be controlled if you allow it. Stand firm in your decisions (this is probably just the beginning of their intrusiveness into your and your husbands childrearing) and gently tell your family to back off. Eventually they will get used to it. Believe me, my husband and I both come from large Italian families that were VERY controlling, but after so many years of ignoring them and doing what we each wanted, they got it!
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Registered: 10-01-2004
Mon, 01-17-2005 - 9:08pm

i personally do not like the name Natalia, but don't not name her that because your family doesn't like it, who cares what they thing if you and your husband like it, your child will like it...imo

casey

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Registered: 01-17-2005
Mon, 01-17-2005 - 9:33pm
I think it is very pretty! You need to remember it is your baby and not your families!! As long as you and your husband agree that is all that matters. Your family will love the baby no matter what her name is! As for whether or not she will like it....what kid likes the name that their parents gave them!! LOL Good luck and God Bless!
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Registered: 03-25-2003
Tue, 01-18-2005 - 12:47am
Natalia is a BEAUTIFUL name. In fact, I keep hoping I will have another girl because that's a name I've been considering. I knew a Natalia in high school. She was so unbelievably beautiful. She was tall, thin, had beautiful shining brown hair and tan skin. The name fit her perfectly. This name always makes me think of a beautiful, conservative, mysterious (in a great way) model. I say stick with it!
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Registered: 01-16-2005
Tue, 01-18-2005 - 1:13am
I know!! I am trying to figure out why they don't like that name too. no idea?!?!?!? Anyways thank you for responding to my message; it makes me feel more better about choosing that name:)

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