Is this really an ugly name?

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Registered: 01-16-2005
Is this really an ugly name?
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Sun, 01-16-2005 - 10:54pm
I am having the most trouble with finding a baby name for a girl.My husband and I really like the name Natalia.The thing is my whole family hates it. They say she will hate it for the rest of her life, and I need to choose something else; my family is very controlive in my choices, and it seems like they are never happy with MY choices in life. My mom says to name her Jasmine, but my husband does not like it as much as Natalia. My husband says to forget about what they say, but he is not the one that has to hear the bit**ing from my family.Any advices?????

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Registered: 01-20-2005
Sat, 01-22-2005 - 8:17pm
My mom gets kinda mad when I don't like her suggestions...but I tell her you had 5 kids...5 chances to name kids what you wanted to names them. It's my turn now...I name what I want to name because they are my children...if she wants to use those names, then she can try to have another kid...or start adopting animals and using those names. You don't have to hear thier bitching...just change the subject or refuse to discuss it any further. If you are married and out of the house, they don't have control over you...practice hanging up the phone...or saying the word "NO".
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Registered: 01-20-2005
Sat, 01-22-2005 - 8:28pm
As stated, "they are controlling"...I'm sure its a way to exert control. Some people are like that...they may like it, but won't admit to it, just because they want people to agree with them and do as they want them to do. I proudly announce my names and when they start w/ "i don't like that" or "i'll call him this instead" or "what about...name"....I enjoy telling them "so, it's what we like"..."no you won't, his name is this"..."I'm not taking in another considerations right now" I love when they threaten to call them something else...I counter with what I'll teach them to call them or what I'll start calling them. I guess I'm glad to be out of thier house and away from thier "rules"...I'm 1000miles away and love that they hate not being able to have any sort of control over me....hehehe
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Registered: 09-14-2004
Sun, 01-23-2005 - 12:25am
I think you should decide for yourself. The baby is yours and your husbands, not your moms or the rest of the family's. Being a mother-to-be, I assume you are an adult and can make your own decisions, so what you want to name your baby should be up to you. Tell your family that you and your husband like the name Natalia and if they dont like it, so be it, but the baby is still part of the family regardless of her name. As soon as you start making your own decisions and let them know that you are an adult, they will back off and respect your decisions. Good Luck, and I think it's a beautiful name!
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Registered: 01-22-2005
Sun, 01-23-2005 - 11:19am
I think Natalia is ugly as well. Jasmine is much better. What about Camille?
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Registered: 01-19-2004
Sun, 01-23-2005 - 11:52am
Love It!! Naming YOUR baby is up to you and your husband. It will grow on people! I found that out with my daughter Abigail.
Michelle
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Registered: 01-16-2005
Sat, 01-29-2005 - 5:14pm
Thanks for your response, but personally,Camille is not what I would choose.But thanks for your suggestion.
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Registered: 01-24-2005
Mon, 01-31-2005 - 3:01pm

I really think it is a pretty name. If you and your husband both love it, I think you should ignore everyone else's opinion. If you don't, you may regret it later.

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Mon, 01-31-2005 - 3:51pm

Oh you poor thing...I am *so* sorry that your family is making the naming process of your little girl so difficult! When I saw your question I was expecting a really ugly name...not the gorgeous Natalia-I *love* it!!!!!! And you could call her Lia as a nn if you like...I don't understand why your family feels she will grow up hating it-it's so feminine and beautiful!

In my opinion your family is out of line-they each had or have the chance to name their own children, this is *your* baby...but that's just me :)

From your statments about your family, it sounds like this is not an isolated incident-it sounds to me like they don't really like you making your own choices (if they disapprove of choice after choice that you make), instead, they hope to make all of your choices for you...yes?

I agree with you dh, but also understand how you feel like it's easy for him to say, he's not going to get the grief from them that you worry you will. But I would *not* back down and just use the name your mom suggests (she should have named one of *her* daughters Jasmine then).... my only feeble recommendation is maybe to still use Natalia as her fn for sure...but pick a mn they like if you are willing to do so?

Again, I am so sorry this is happening to you...it is always my opinion that this is *your* decision and everyone else should pretty much back off...LOL If it makes you feel any better, they will all simply *adore* her no matter what her name is once she is born ....

Marguerite

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Registered: 01-02-2005
Wed, 02-02-2005 - 12:35pm

I think it is a really pretty name. It's your husband's and your

   

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Registered: 01-25-2005
Sat, 02-12-2005 - 9:00pm
It is your child, not your families decision. if you like it go with it. It will grow on your family!
Kayla
EDD 8/11/05

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