same middle name for ss and ds?

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same middle name for ss and ds?
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Mon, 09-20-2004 - 5:07pm

we arent expecting until early may....


if it is a boy we both really love Ian as fn, as far as a mn I really love Ian Scott (my husbands name is scott). It is our first child.


however my ss name is Micheal Scott? Would it be inappropriate to have them with the same middle name? Micheal is not a big part of our lives (not by our choice) and we rarely see him, he was a by product of a highschool one night stand thing.


Rachel

 

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Registered: 08-17-2004
Mon, 09-20-2004 - 5:14pm
Ian Scott is a very nice name. I like it a lot! I dont think it will matter if it is your ss's mn too, even if you did see each other. Best wishes!
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Mon, 09-20-2004 - 7:04pm
There is nothing inappropriate about sharing the same middle name...in some families it is even tradition...my sil's boys all have the middle name Lawrence which is her dh's middle name and his brothers as well.

Amy

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Mon, 09-20-2004 - 10:46pm
Well, my sister had twin boys and they gave both boys the same name for the mn. And it was the dad's name. So people do it that way. But I'm not sure that I'd be comfortable doing it, myself.

BTW - Ian is one of my favorite names - good choice!

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Mon, 09-20-2004 - 11:06pm
Personally, I say DON'T do it, BUT...

My youngest brother's middle name is the same as my oldest brother's first name-which is Peter, my dad's middle name and his father's name. My two brothers have different moms. I always thought it was a little pompous of my dad to give his name to two out of three sons, but it also had the effect of creating a strong family name.

I named my first born Erik Peter and was able to honor these four men, plus a cousin who shared Peter as a mn as well, all in one shot.

If you are comfortable with it, I don't see it as an issue!

GL

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Tue, 09-21-2004 - 4:29pm
If you love the name Scott, I see no problem with using it. My SIL gave her 2 boys (different dads) the same MN, Michael. The 1st boy, she used Michael just because it sounded good w/ the fn, and the 2nd boy's dad is named Michael.

Still, if the idea is a little uncomfortable for you, why not use your husband's MN? Keep us posted and GL!
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Tue, 09-21-2004 - 10:09pm
I know people do give the dad's name as a mn to more than one child but why not give each kid their own identity or honor another family member.
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Sun, 09-26-2004 - 10:05pm




Thanks everyone for all the input:)


on another topic...


My husbands name is actually Gary Scott, his dads name is Gary, and they had him go by Scott- which although i like the name a lot better than Gary- it drives me crazy when people go by their legal middle name! I think this is most likely because I work in a doctors office and i cant count how many hours i have looked for a chart bc someone goes by there middle name even though there legal/insurance card etc..is listed with their first name!


We have always had problems with mail, car insurance, credit listings, etc...because my husbands legal name is the same as his fathers.


just something to think about:)




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Mon, 09-27-2004 - 11:27am
Hi and congrats on expecting!

I think people gave some great advice IN FAVOR of using Scott. I think it would be okay to do it; I just wouldn't do it personally. I like for each child to have his/her own identity. The BIGGEST reason that jumped out at me is this:

Is there any possibility that you'd have another child later? If you did, and if it was a boy, then I'd think it'd be a little awkward NOT to name him after dad too! LOL This may not seem important now, but I didn't consider future kids when I named first son, and sort of got myself in a predicament! Just a thought...

Suggestions-

1. Ian Garrison

2. Ian Gray

3. Ian Garrett

4. Ian (your maiden name)

5. Ian Ray (aren't you Rachel?)

Of course, you could do Ian Scott now and use one of my suggestions for a later child...

One more thing, is Micheal old enough for you to ask him if he minds...regardless of whose decision it was for you not to see him much, it's usually still hard for kids when they don't have a close relationship with a parent. I don't think you'd want him to think later on that he didn't "count."

Let us know what you think!! Best wishes, Ginger


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Wed, 09-29-2004 - 10:46am




Heck- now im totally in love with another name anyway.....hehehehe


howabout Jude?




Rachel

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Wed, 09-29-2004 - 11:18pm
Jude is a great name too!

I think that naming your ds with the same mn as your ss would give them a nice brotherly connection. The only reason I wouldn't do it is because I have too many names I want to use! LOL

I do agree with one of the previous posters who stated that you would want to name a third son with the same mn too so he won't feel left out.

Good luck!

Amy

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