same middle name for ss and ds?
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same middle name for ss and ds?
| Mon, 09-20-2004 - 5:07pm |
we arent expecting until early may....
if it is a boy we both really love Ian as fn, as far as a mn I really love Ian Scott (my husbands name is scott). It is our first child.
however my ss name is Micheal Scott? Would it be inappropriate to have them with the same middle name? Micheal is not a big part of our lives (not by our choice) and we rarely see him, he was a by product of a highschool one night stand thing.

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Sarah
That being said, if it isn't uncommon in your family to use the same middle names, then there is no reason not to. In my family we specifically try to remain away from "taken" names and using the same one raises a few eyebrows sometimes :-)
A name is something personal and is your identity. It might make your step-son feel that he is inadequate to carry his father's name because his father used the name for another child.
Maybe I'm analyzing this too much for your situation, but I'm basing this on my 20 years of being with DH and seing the family dynamics of his father having the two families.
BTW - DH did not grow up with his half-sisters. He never saw them growing up. Now that they are all adults he is very close to one of his step-sisters. The relationship that they now have came as a complete surprise to them. They never would have thought that they would be close when they were growing up.
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