Same name question!

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Registered: 04-06-2003
Same name question!
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Mon, 01-10-2005 - 12:07pm

A mom in a playgroup that we are in with our older children, just had her second daughter the other day and named her HOLLY. I am due in 2 weeks and am expecting a girl. I was really considering HOLLY and am a little disappointed that she named her child that. Would it be too awkward to name her Holly too. We see each other weekly but rarely see each other outside of the playgroup and don't live in the same neighbourhood. The kids won't go to school together or anything like that in the future. What are everyone elses thoughts on it? My husband doesn't care but he also doesn't attend the group.

TIA,
Susan

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Registered: 04-04-2003
In reply to: zuvin
Mon, 01-10-2005 - 12:17pm

I'm having a similiar problem. My husband loves the name Kaitlin. He keeps going back to that name. I like it too, but worried it over used. I really like just plain Kait. My cousin and his wife have a 1 1/2 year daughter named Kaitlin though. We only see them once a year but not sure if its ok to use the same name.

I think in your case it fine because it not a relative. Like you said the kids don't live near each other and won't go to the same school. I wouldn't worry about it.

Kristi

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Registered: 08-01-2003
In reply to: zuvin
Mon, 01-10-2005 - 12:21pm

I guess it depends on how much you had your heart set no that name - if it's something you absolutely loved and had in mind for a long time.

It's definitely going to be a a little awkward. If she or anyone else questions you, just say you had it picked out and already set in stone, had no idea that's what she was naming her baby. you can say there were already some baby shower presents where your friends knew the name and it was on some things - hey, a little fib never hurts too much - LOL.

good luck

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Registered: 04-06-2003
In reply to: zuvin
Mon, 01-10-2005 - 12:25pm
I actually have a poll on here from before her Holly was born so I do have a little bit of proof but I don't know, I hate justifying things like this. Thanks, Susan
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Registered: 08-03-2004
In reply to: zuvin
Mon, 01-10-2005 - 12:33pm
i say name her Holly! i don't think it would be too awkward. it's a beautiful name and you can use it too!

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Registered: 11-22-2004
In reply to: zuvin
Mon, 01-10-2005 - 12:34pm
I had a similar dilemma. A guy I work with has a young son named Alex, which I didn't know until after I had settled on that for my son due in 1 week. I debated on changing the name but already think of mine as little Alex, so I'm sticking with it. Like you the 2 children live far apart and will not go to school together so it will just be a little awkward at work gatherings and conversations.
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Registered: 11-03-2004
In reply to: zuvin
Mon, 01-10-2005 - 2:07pm

I think you are fine to use the name Holly. She got to pick from any name in the world, so should you. I also don't think you need any "proof" that you had already thought about it before she named her baby. I would politely explain that you and your hubby were set on the name, and you were equally surprised when she named her baby Holly.

Go for it!! Great name, by the way.

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Registered: 09-29-2003
In reply to: zuvin
Mon, 01-10-2005 - 3:05pm
I think you should definitely use the name Holly. What are the chances that you'll even see this woman regularly in another five years or so? The worst would be to NOT use the name and regret it if you eventually lose touch with this woman. And you don't have to justify it to her. Just tell her that it's funny you both had the same name selected, and you figured it would be fine since the girls aren't going to go to school together. Good luck! Congrats on having a girl! I had my first baby - a girl - in October and they are so much fun!
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Registered: 11-22-2004
In reply to: zuvin
Mon, 01-10-2005 - 6:26pm
I would definately use it! Holly is absolutely adorable!!!!!!
What is her middle name?
~ellie
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Registered: 10-01-2004
In reply to: zuvin
Mon, 01-10-2005 - 7:32pm

name her what you like . my philosophy is if there not in your close family use the name if you love it. Shes not your friend, or a close family member so use it.

hth casey

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Registered: 02-24-2004
In reply to: zuvin
Mon, 01-10-2005 - 7:32pm

I think that if you're questioning it, then you may just want to tell the lady that Holly was one of the names on your top 3 or top 5 list or whatever... and that your DH is leaning toward that. Then just ask her if she'd mind if you used it to name your DD also. She's not going to say "no". I just think it'd be a nice gesture and a good way to confront the situation... rather than delivering a "Holly" and then she ends up hearing it through the grapevine... that way it'd look like you're just copying her.


My 2nd cousins name is Heather (I was born first), but my mom's cousin called her and asked if she could use Heather for her daughter too. My mom was really pleased by the way she approached it and also honored that her cousin would choose to name her daughter the same name. (all 3 of the girls names were Heather, Heidi and Holly... funny that you're thinking of Holly). :)


Good luck... do what you think is right. I think that if you want your DD to be Holly, then name her Holly!


-Heather


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