Serious Disagreement over name! HELP!!!
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| Mon, 12-11-2006 - 1:16pm |
Hi,
I am not due until next August, however, my Fiance and I are already having serious disagreements over the baby's name! He already had the names he wanted picked out and isn't budging on them very much. Here is his reasoning: If its a boy he wants the boy named after him. If its a girl he wants her named after his mother, who died when he was a teenager. Here is my reasoning: On the boy name, this is just my personal opinion (no offense to anyone else) but I personally don't like it when a child is named after their parent. I feel they should have their own name and identity, after all, they are their own unique person. I would like to name the boy after my father, who also passed away when I was young, but he is not willing to do this. So, my solution is to name him after my fiance but call him by his middle name, which I like a lot. As far as the girls name, I know this is really terrible, but I really don't like my Fiance's mother's name. I feel awful, and I want to like it, but I just don't and I really don't want to call my daughter a name I don't like. I felt a compromise would be to use her name as the middle name, and pick another first name that we both like.
My fiance keeps saying that because I got to pick my first daughter's name (I was a single mom with my dd) that he should get to pick the name for this one since he has never got to do this. I feel it shouldn't matter, I think we both need to feel good about this child's name.
Someone please help on this! Do you think I am being unfair? Or is he being stubborn? Any input or suggestions on how to resolve this issue would be really appreciated! It may seem silly, but we keep having serious arguments about this already!
Thanks!
Ren

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I agree with you completely. This is your child too, and you have a right to speak your mind and have a say in the naming. He is going to have to stop being childish and learn to compromise! I agree that the best thing is to use his mother's name as a mn, or his first name as a mn, so the name still has a nice tie to the family, but then you can both find something you agree on for a first name.
-Nikki
Well I think you should both have input in the naming. I wouldn't want someone to tell me what to name my child. For a boy, why dont you switch his name (use fn as a mn and mn as the fn), that way its still named after him but he doesn't have to be a jr. or whatever number it would be. As for a girl, if you dont like him mother's name why don't you find a variation of it that you like. I would try to explain that if you use so and so variation that it is still honoring her while giving her something of her own. And you can still tell people that you named her after his mother and im sure your daughter would be proud to tell people that too. But if its a name that you dont like I think you should be firm and try to come to a compromise that you both can agree on. You have a long while to go so you have plenty of time to talk about it with him.
hope that helps, good luck!
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Great advice so far.
Thanks everyone for all the great advice so far! Here are the names:
His name is Joseph Anthony, which I am ok with if we call the baby Anthony. I like the name Joseph and it has sentimental value to me as well, I just don't want to call my child the same name I call my husband. Its just my personal preference.
His mother's name is Geanette. Absolutely NO offense intended to anyone one here, I just personally don't love that name, but I think it would be sort of pretty for a middle name.
My fathers name is Jerry, a name which we both like and also happens to be his best friends name.
Thanks again :).
Ren
Anthony Joseph sounds great, and AJ is such a cute, sporty nickname.
Geanette would make a pretty middle name.
I think you just need to stand your ground, it is a mutual decision and he'll come around :)
Good Luck!
I think they're names you can work with.
I totally agree with you! Your DF needs to compromise, this is YOUR baby to not just his. I think his mothers name would work very well in the MN spot. For the boy why not give him your DFs middle name Anthony and then use your dads first or middle name as your sons? I think that would work very well. I hope you DF comes around soon!
Good Luck!!
Thanks everyone, those are some really good suggestions! I really like Anthony Joseph, with AJ for short. For a girl I really like Ava Geanette, and Ava is his Grandmother's name. Now I just need him to come around on these! Hopefully you guys are right and he will!
Ren
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