She stole my name!

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Registered: 03-14-2007
She stole my name!
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Thu, 03-15-2007 - 2:09pm
My friend and I made a deal that she wouldnt use Claire, because I chose it first, and we do everything together so having two little Claire's wouldnt work. Anyway, she had her baby this morning and named it Claire Reese Johnson. How stupid! She shoulda just named her Clarice! Errh! I wouldnt be so mad except for the fact that she didnt like it till she saw it on my list, cuz she said it sounded like an old lady name, then she changed her mind, and said she did like it, but she wouldnt use it, and then she used it. Would you be mad??

Christie


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Registered: 09-29-2005
Thu, 03-15-2007 - 2:40pm

I'd be mad, sure, but at least you're right ... Claire Reese is a very poorly-thought-out combo. I thought of Clarice before even reading that sentence. ROFL I think you can rest assured she gave little thought to her child's name and had to "steal" yours as a last resort when she came up blank.

FWIW, I much prefer Clara for you (if I'm remembering your previous post correctly), and if you use the short "a" pronunciation klah-ra, rather than Claire-a, perhaps it would still be different enough.

And if it makes you feel any better, you can always act dumb and refer to the baby as Clarice ("it's a little close to Claire, which you know I'll be using, but not too similar to be a problem I suppose" ROFL). Nice. ;)


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Thu, 03-15-2007 - 4:31pm
Bummer! If she's someone who you are not very close with, I would still use it, because I think if you didn't you would always regret it. If you see her alot and spend a lot fo time with her, I would go with Clara or pick another name.
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Registered: 02-06-2007
Thu, 03-15-2007 - 5:23pm
Heck yes I would be very angry. For me something like that would probably end the friendship. Its just completly disrespectful and rude. I say name you DD Claire anyway. Its a beautiful name and I honestly don't think it would cause that much confusion. You could double name her, call her Claire *middle name*.


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Registered: 03-15-2007
Thu, 03-15-2007 - 7:12pm

I don't blame you at all for being mad! It is a huge decision to come up with a baby name, and if it is your good friend you don't want your daughters to have the same name. I would definitely tell your friend that you were upset and let her know that was the name you had chosen for your daughter. Coming up with our daughter's name was a huge deal for my husband and I and it took a long time for us to find one name to agree on. We also got a lot of comments from people about it being an "old lady name". My 13 month old daughter's name is Ella Grace and if we have a girl this time we're going with the old fashioned (as I prefer to call it) name again - Lucy Marie. There are plenty of names out there - keep looking! Sophia is very pretty... another one of my favorites that my husband hates is Julia.

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Registered: 01-15-2007
Thu, 03-15-2007 - 7:48pm

I generally have no problem with same-name classmates, close friends or even same-name cousins. That might be because we have several same-name close relatives in my family, and no one has any issues with it. If a friend or my sister-in-law were to use the name I'm planning on using, I would DEFINITELY still use the name, regardless of which baby is born first, regardless of whether the kids will be together all the time. The name-confusion thing is (in my experience) a non-issue -- nicknames, or use of first name plus middle name, or first plus last name, works fine.

BUT - in this case, you and your friend had made an agreement, and Claire was not a longstanding favorite of hers. I would still name my daughter Claire, but I would be annoyed at my friend's rejection of our agreement. I don't think that I would discuss it with her, though, because there's nothing that can be done about it. I'm not sure I'd continue to be as close with her, because this could be symptomatic of a bigger problem with her, e.g., maybe she copied you because she's jealous of you in some way, etc.

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Registered: 05-29-2003
Thu, 03-15-2007 - 8:02pm
Thr reality is, she had a baby first and thus, by definition, got to use Claire before you really chose it. I'm sorry you love it so, and feel like she "stole" your name but the truth is, it isn't yours until you bestow it on a child.
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Registered: 03-15-2007
Thu, 03-15-2007 - 9:09pm
This is why you shouldn't share a name with someone who is pregnant. I would still name your daughter Claire regardless. Who knows if you will be friends with this person in the future. Clara is also a beautiful name so that could be an option.
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Fri, 03-16-2007 - 2:46am

I would be miffed but if she's been a really good friend, I'd let it go.

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Registered: 02-09-2007
Fri, 03-16-2007 - 8:58am
Yes I would be furious. When people ask me if I have any names I say sure but I am not telling becuase people steal names. It happened to me before. I think it is so nasty. I don't think I could ever do that to someone, ecspecially my best friend. Sophie is a realy nice name. Good luck
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Fri, 03-16-2007 - 11:59am
Well FWIW, we have a Clare and I sort of wish we'd named her Clara or Claris (that'd be funny if you named your dd Claris -- sounds almost like Claire Reese, lol!). Clara has the same lovely old-fashioned feel as Claire, but it less popular. And should you still want to name your baby Claire, I say go for it.


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