Should babies be named after family

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Registered: 02-23-2006
Should babies be named after family
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Thu, 03-02-2006 - 6:43pm
When I first saw that I was having a boy and I mean in the ultrasound my little baby was spread eagle I knew that he would be named after his father. His father and I are not married but we are in a happy relationship and even if we don't stay together my son's name Lucian is very unique. My own father was upset because i didn't name my son after him but I told him that my brothers will have children and that name roger needs to be after his sons. So when I have a girl should I name her after my family. I want to name her after my grandmother but also after a friend of mine that has passed away. I plan on having a big family but I would like all there names to be special. And what if God does not intend for me to have a big family. I have had a c-section and the doctors told me I could only have two more. So I am confused who should I name my children after. Or should I pick something special that I like.
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Registered: 03-28-2005
Thu, 03-02-2006 - 10:53pm

Your Dad had his chance to name children after him. Now do as you wish. I like the name Lucien also, but personally, I wouldn't give a child the same first name as the parent. Maybe Luca or Luke (varient?). To each their own, I guess.

Now, this would be different from someone naming a child after a lost beloved relative. For instance, my sister was named after my Aunt who died when she was 11. My Grandmother's middle name honored a sister who died in infancy before my grandmother was born.

Do what feels right for you, obviously!

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Registered: 09-29-2005
Thu, 03-02-2006 - 11:00pm

Ah, just the reason we purposefully avoid any names in use in our families! ;) I'm not much for Juniors, but I do think by doing so you've avoided any obligation to using family names for any future children. After all, you've named a child after its father. If your other children are not named for anyone in the family, the only one that could feel slighted is YOU! (And no, I'm not saying to name a daughter after yourself! hehehe ... just that your father, uncle, second-cousin shouldn't feel bad you used your husband's name and not theirs). ;)

I don't, however, object to using the names of deceased loved ones to honor/remember them, so I think using your grandmother's (if she has passed) or friend's name is a nice sentiment. Also, by using only the names of family/friends that have passed on, you avoid anyone else in the family being jealous at not having their names used (and if they still complain, tell them you'd be happy to name the next one after them, as long as they fit the deceased criteria ... just kidding, of course!). ;)

HTH!

~Kelli


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Registered: 02-23-2006
Fri, 03-03-2006 - 10:50am
Thanks so much for your message. It has helped me decide what the future name shall bring haha but looking through that baby book can be a pain haha