Should I tell my friend?

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Registered: 06-02-2003
Should I tell my friend?
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Thu, 10-04-2007 - 10:29pm

My close friend is expecting a boy in a couple of months and as we were discussing names I told her what I have wanted to name a son for as long as I can remember (after my grandfather). My name is a classic, but has a nn that I've never heard used with the name. Her family has the same classic name, and after I told her what I plan to name/call my son she's now decided that she loves

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Registered: 01-15-2007
Thu, 10-04-2007 - 10:46pm
Very difficult to say...it probably depends on factors including your personality, her personality, and what your friendship is like. So I'm not sure what would be the best thing for you to do. Speaking just for myself, though, I would definitely let it go. I so firmly believe that names (and nicknames) belong to everyone that I wouldn't bring it up. By the same token, I absolutely would still use the name and nickname if I had a son later, and I wouldn't care one bit if people (no matter how small the community -- I'm from a small town, too) thought I had copied. My child's name is my choice -- that's what I believe.
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Registered: 01-07-2004
Fri, 10-05-2007 - 2:43pm
hello!! well it would depend on the name-is there other nns? i dont think i would tell her-you never know-the best laid plans usually get screwed up. my mother in law gave me the suggestion of using isabelle for my 2nd child-i liked the name-and we used it. she wanted to call her belle, but i said izzy once and my older child heard it. she called her baby sister izzy from that day on-and now my child wont even answer to anything else. she MIGHT answer to isabelle, but most of the time, shell only answer to izzy. belle is TOTALLY out of the question. you could suggest a few other nicknames, see what she thinks about that-youre not being pushy-just say something like "you know i was thinking about (sons name) nn and i was thinking about this or that instead of..." and see what she thinks. but ultimately its her choice, her child and ultimately her nn...like i said though-you never know what could happen-she might end up using a totally different nn for her child and you could be worrying about a non-issue. my oldest child was "goon" from about 6 months old and she still is-although she complains when i call her it now. lol. take care!!
joanne
maman2goons@yahoo.com
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Registered: 03-20-2003
Sat, 10-06-2007 - 12:08am

If you have a good relationship with her, and you can