sisters naming kids the same name

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Registered: 12-02-2007
sisters naming kids the same name
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Sun, 12-02-2007 - 12:08pm

hi,


I told my sister my name that i wanted to use for one of our kids. she went ahead and used it for one of her kids before i had a chance. Do you think it would be crazy to use the same name?? I think i thought of it first and she thinks she did. it's made me really upset that she did this to me. she always steals my ideas before i get to use them. I know now that i will never tell her my ideas before i use them. I always look like i'm copying her even it was my idea. i know this all sounds immature but i don't think i will forgive her if i don't use the name too.


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Registered: 11-23-2007
Sun, 12-02-2007 - 1:14pm

Wow, I do feel for you!

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Registered: 03-01-2005
Sun, 12-02-2007 - 4:39pm
What's the name? If it's something really common, that's one thing. If it's rare, it's another thing...



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Sun, 12-02-2007 - 5:13pm

Well me being very stubborn and always having to get my way, I would still use the name IF it was truly my idea.

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Sun, 12-02-2007 - 11:02pm

I would choose a different name. Now, this is coming from someone who has no sisters (just two SILs, and my brother doesn't plan on having kids.) But my brother and I have always been academically competitive and that hasn't always done me favors. He got a doctorate--I applied for a PhD program. It wasn't until after I was rejected that I realized that it wasn't a good fit for me--I'm not as research-oriented as my brother and you need that for a PhD. I'll be applying for a master's program, instead, and that will be fine.

And what does this have to do with names? Simply this--for whatever reason, your sister has chosen this name. I wouldn't make life more confusing for your child and family, or continue the competition, by using it yourself. Sometimes, like someone else said, it's just best to say "okay" and be bigger and let it go. I think if you used it now, it would have more of a feel of getting back at your sister than of being a gift to your child, and that doesn't feel good to me.


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Mon, 12-03-2007 - 4:43am
I'm sorry your sister did that, its just plain rude to purposely steal a name that you know someone else likes and really wants to use. But I agree with all the other posters, let it go be the bigger person and move on. I'm sure she knows she stole your name even if she doesn't admit it.


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Mon, 12-03-2007 - 2:48pm
go ahead and use it-if you ever have a child the same sex as your sisters child-and if you feel you still love that name down the line...you might decide that you dont like that name when you actually get pregnant down the line-or you might have a girl while the name is 100% boy. i would just let the name sit in your mind and use it if you decide you still like it...and yeah, next time dont mention any ideas to your sister-unless you want her to use it as her idea...take care!!
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Mon, 12-03-2007 - 3:05pm

Honestly, as much as you might hate to, I think you need to just let it go.

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