Still having problems

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Still having problems
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Fri, 12-31-2004 - 11:58am

Hi Ladies,
My husband and I are still having troubles with naming our baby girl. We only have 10 weeks left and we really can't agree on anything. My all time favorite name is "PAYTON RILEY". He hates it. Basically he hates anything that I come up with.

His names are as follows:
Daisy Dixie
Gracie Faith
(and other southern sounding names that are off the wall)
Most of his names sound weird.

When I looked up the name Payton, it states that it can be used for a boy or girl. I've wanted that name since I had my first daughter. We finally chose Melissa Marie for her.

Any kind of guidance would be really appreciated.

Thanks alot,
Trishia
EDD 03/18/05

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Registered: 03-27-2003
Fri, 12-31-2004 - 12:31pm

I hate to say this, but if he hates Payton Riley you have to just forget about it. You can't name your daughter something that he hates. He also has to forget about the names that you hate (I must say that Daisy Dixie is REALLY bad). After you get rid of the hated names, what is left?

DH and I had the same problem with our DS. He wanted Clarence (after his grandfather), Percival (after an uncle) or Robin (after an uncle). He wouldn't budge. I would actually cry about it - the whole naming process was that bad. He also hated the names that I wanted (my favorite was Duncan but made DH think of Dunkin Donuts). After much hemming and hawing we finally came up with two names - names that neither of us loved, but both liked - Edward and Benjamin. We did it by making lists individually, swapping lists and crossing out names that we couldn't live with. We didn't finalize until after the baby was born and we decided he was more of a Benjamin than an Edward. To this day DH tells me that he really thinks our DS looks like a Robin and regrets not naming him that. Naming a baby is not an easy thing to do - but you and your DH will find a name if you stick to it.

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Registered: 10-12-2004
Fri, 12-31-2004 - 1:17pm
What is your husband thinking with these names?? LOL!! I was hoping for a girl, but am having a boy (still very excited, even though we are having the same problem you guys are with agreeing on a name for the little man). Anyway, I thought I'd share my little girl's name with you. We were going to name (if it was a) her Maya Camille. We both loved and agreed on this name, if you like it, try it out on your DH and see what he thinks. Hope this helps, besides, I want someone to make good use of this beautiful name!!
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Registered: 12-23-2004
Fri, 12-31-2004 - 1:38pm
Daisy Dixie?!? LOL! Oh, I can soooo relate! My husband loves the name Penny (blah!). I feel for you.... I really hated how he would veto every name I offered up. And, he would only make a few suggestions - such as Penny. He would also tell me that he liked a name and then later say that he didn't. It is hard to let go of a name that you love, like Payton, but what can you do if he won't budge? I finally came up with a longer list of names that I liked and went through them all until he showed the slightest liking towards one. Then, once I knew he sort of liked it, it seemed that I began to like it more and more.... until we both loved it and couldn't imagine any other name. Good luck!!
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Registered: 01-03-2005
Thu, 01-06-2005 - 10:01pm

WELL SINCE HE LIKES COUNTRY NAMES IF YOU COME UP WITH YOUR OWN MAYBE HE'LL BUDGE! I LOVE THE NAME PEYTON AS WELL BUT MY SO, CANT STAND IT... SUGGESTIONS ARE

SAVANNAH LYNN SAVANNAH FAITH
KARA DAWN
GRACE ELIZABETH

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Registered: 08-03-2004
Fri, 01-07-2005 - 1:00pm

can you get your dh to agree to payton as a mn? maybe Faith Payton would be a good compromise? I think that sounds really pretty! i hear ya on loving a name your dh hates. i ALWAYS wanted to name my 1st girl Jacey. DH HATES it with a passion. we didn't get to use it at all when our dd was born. then again, he loves the names Derrick and Trevor for a boy and I just don't like them. guess it equals out. Hope you both can find a name you love!

leah

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Fri, 01-07-2005 - 2:02pm

Daisy Dixie ????????? does he want her to be ridiculed her entire life. I'm not slamming either name on its own, but the pairing is obviously ridiculous.

I like your Payton Riley, even though I try to avoid unisex names. Payton is one unisex name I like somewhat, although I really still like it for a boy.

I doesn't match up to well with Melissa Marie though, which is so feminine. Keep trying to sell him on Payton, since he obviously doesn't have any winning ideas, but here is a list of names I think would do well with Melissa - you pick the middle.

Amanda, Amber, Aubrey, Brianne, Brianna, Brielle, Brenna, Courtney, Chelsea, Cara, Delaney, Desiree, Dannah, Erica, Heidi, Hilary, Janna, Jocelyn, Jillian, Johanna, Kara, Kyndle, Kelsey, Mackenzie, Mallory, Molly, Maura or Moira, Natasha, Natalie, Reegan or Raegan, Rayna, Rhiannon, Sabrina, Sienna, Sierra, Samara, Tonya, Torri, Tasha, Teegan or Taegan, Whitney.

one name I really like that has become popular late is Piper. even though it's not a frilly-type feminine name, it's girls that it's being used for lately. I think it's really cute. maybe you could sell him on that instead of Payton?

good luck

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Registered: 01-07-2005
Fri, 01-07-2005 - 8:58pm
I agree you can't go with a name that one of you hates. You might have to pick a name that both of you think is mediocre. Maybe each of you write some names down and swap lists. Cross of the names you HATE and circle the ones you LIKE/LOVE if any. If your lucky each of you will circle something from the other one's list and you can decide from the circled ones. If not then you'll have a list that you both agree is mediocrity but at least there are no hated names. Another suggestion is one of you pick the first name and the other pick the middle.
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Sun, 01-09-2005 - 4:45pm
Payton Faith, Payton Grace, Payton Daisy, Daisy Payton, Faith Riley, Riley Faith?






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