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| Thu, 05-15-2008 - 12:14pm |
Ok, if you've been wondering....we're still having trouble naming our six week old son. If you are totally shocked or want to tell me how much I need to make a decision...you don't need to waste your time, I'm extremely mad at myself. Part of me avoided typing this because I knew some people would find it impossible that I'm not decided but I do want your opinion on a name.
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I don't think Grant is really popular...I can't actually think of one out of my own age group, though I'm sure they're out there. With the current trends, though, I honestly believe that anything not ending in -den, -ton or -son will sound uncommon. *laugh* And I do like it. It makes me think of Grant Wood, the genius behind the painting "American Gothic"...we saw an exhibit of his work a couple of years ago and he exhibited a sense of humor uncommon in most well-known artists, so Grant's got a special place in my heart.
As far as the Stennar or Stian issue...honestly, I'm going to guess that a grown man would prefer Stennar as an adult because he won't have to deal with the Stain typos all the time. But that's just me...I've never been a grown man.
And I remember that you really struggled with Berit's name, too...questioning yourself just seems to be part of who you are. I understand. I can second-guess whether I should've bought that candy bar yesterday, and it took me a month and a half to stop second-guessing Penn's name. (The post-partum depression probably didn't help.) I think it's easy to overromanticize the idea of a "perfect" name because one of your children's came so easily, or because some seem like such perfect fits on other people's children...but I think you can drive yourself bonkers going down that path. At some point, it's okay to say "it's good" in lieu of "it's perfect." And then, unless there was something else that you regret not using, one day (when he's three or eight or twenty-two) you'll find yourself thinking "it's perfect."
I don't know if I helped at all...but I hope so.
I'm so sorry you've had such a hard time- I'm sure it's really weighing on you!
My opinion is that Grant is the way to go. I find it strong and distinguished. It sounds like that is who you feel your son is. If that's the case, I wouldn't change it.
Now, if your husband (or you) really feels that a Stennar or Stian is important to include, I'd do it as the mn. Grant Stennar would be my preference.
I really can't decide between Stennar or Stian as a fn b/c I really dislike either, sorry. As to your question as to which a man might like better as his name, I think Stennar is a little easier to deal with as far as spelling/ pronunciation.
HTH, and I hope that you're able to come to a final decision soon and love the name!
Thanks belle_petite for the siggy!
I have been there. It took us 6 weeks to name our daughter, and it is only now (almost 2 years later) that I feel like it is an appropriate name.
I really like all the names.
Stennar is a very strong name and one good thing about it is I believe it is pronounced the way that is spelled. I think that Sten is cute. The other thing going for it is that it is definitely original and memorable. Being in the corporate world I am sure you appreciate names that stick out from the pack. Also, I can see him having a good conversation starter when he has to network and mingle.
I like Stian as well. It has a great sound to it and is very cute for a boy and could grow into a great "man" name. My critique of it would be that if you didn't tell me how it was pronounced, I probably would not have said it correctly the first time. Also, being completely ignorant about Scandinavian names, I might think it was a made up name based on Ian.
I don't think Grant is common at all- I am not sure where you are from, it could be more common in your region. But with 1 kid in school and one in pre-school, I have not heard that name once for a child and can only think of one adult Grant that I have met. The image I get from Grant is a sweet boy. I get two images for grown man: one- a quiet, somewhat scholarly man, two: a southern "Mathew McConaughey" type.
HTH
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As someone that has worked with kids for 20+ years I have never had any of the names you mentioned for children in my classes.
Grant is a fine name and he will just become the name you have given him.
Our Donavan just looks like a Donavan....and I've never met another.
I can see myself being the exact same way if/when I have kids. I'm a perfectionist, and I'd be terrified that I would