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| Tue, 01-10-2006 - 10:17pm |
Hi guys....I hope someone can help me out with this...
I'm not with the father of my baby. He has crossed the line too many times. He was very controlling and very jealous, even hit things (not me) at times. That's the extremely simple version. I try to keep him informed about what is going on, but every time we talk we end up arguing, and I end up getting really upset or angry. So I told him to stop talking to me, yet he still does. I am 21 weeks pregnant. He lives in Florida and I live in Washington. My family and I have put all the financial support towards this baby, he has put nothing (partly because I don't want to deal with him right now).
He asked me today if I have been looking for names. I have been looking for girl names, but haven't looked for boy names yet. He asked me if the baby was going to have his last name. I told him that in my state, I can name the baby anything that I want, first and last name. He got really mad, asking me if I am going to even involve him in any decisions when it comes to the baby, because I said "I" can name the baby anything that "I" want.
He swears up and down that he wants to be a part of this baby's life. He says he is going to move up to my state and get his own place, but I don't believe what he says anymore because it has changed so many times. I still don't feel like he is thinking about this kid, I think he is just thinking in terms of me and him.
I want to give the baby my last name, but I think he sees that as an insult, and obviously he thinks I am being selfish. All of my generation in my family are females, there are no males to carry on the family name. He is a guy, he will marry one day and have kids of his own with his last name. However, I will probably get married and give up my last name, just as the rest of my generation in my family will do, simply because of tradition. I'm a pretty liberal, so since we are not married, I don't think that the baby should get his last name anyway. I don't think either of us are willing to budge in this matter.
Anyone have any suggestions on what I should do?

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