thoughts on waiting until arrival...

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thoughts on waiting until arrival...
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Sat, 11-04-2006 - 2:02pm

I'm wondering if anyone has had experience waiting until the baby is born to pick a final name. My husband is pretty opposed to this, I'm for it. I feel like I want to see who we have before we pick a name. He thinks we might a) disagree or b)wait too long to choose. We knew the name and the sex last time. This time we aren't finding out the sex, and I don't want to go in with one set name for each gender, either.

Thoughts?

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Sat, 11-04-2006 - 3:17pm

I couldn't do it. ;) And if I did, it wouldn't really matter "what she looked like" when she was born, because my girls look nothing like they did at birth. If that were my line of thinking, I'd have to wait at least a few months before naming them. LOL

I can, however, understand narrowing it down to two or three names and seeing what seems to "fit" best with her temperment/personality. I'm not sure from your wording if that's what you meant, but if not it might be a good compromise for you. You're not set on one definite name going in, but you have a short list to choose from that you've both discussed and agreed upon before the birth (so you're less likely to disagree when it comes time to choose, KWIM?). So maybe going in with two or three names for each gender would be a good option for you.

I definitely couldn't go the other extreme, scouring the baby name book hours after giving birth. LOL I'd certainly need that short list to keep me grounded.

HTH

~Kelli


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Sat, 11-04-2006 - 3:25pm

My brother and sister-in=law did this. With the first baby they picked it the day of birth, but I think they felt pressured. With the second baby they waited several days after the baby was born to choose. Adriana Skye and Erin Julia are now seven and five years old.
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Sat, 11-04-2006 - 4:28pm
We did this last time, we went in with Owen and Alexander for boys and Maya and Alison for girls(but didn't really LOVE the girls names they were just the only ones we could agree on). I ended up with a Kendall brand cath. and loved that for a girl...lol I would have used it too if he had been a girl. We ended up naming him Owen(which was my favorite) but he looks like an Alex to me now at almost 5 and has since he was a few weeks old.
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Sat, 11-04-2006 - 5:28pm

If you mean not having any sort of a list at all, I don't think I would reccomend that. I did have a list for my DS#2 and I even thought I knew which name I was going to use, but when he was born it just didn't seem to fit. It took me three days to name him and it really stressed me out. Obviously, I did have a list, so even that can fail you sometimes. I am really happy with his name, but I don't think I would do that again on purpose :)

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Sat, 11-04-2006 - 6:40pm

Well I could never do that! LOL! My fiance and I aren't even really TTC yet and we already have names for all of our kids. I think if you can do it you should. I don't see anything wrong with taking 2 or 3 names for each gender to the hospital and making a final decision there.


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Sat, 11-04-2006 - 8:19pm

I never knew the gender for my kids and we always had a short list we took with us. Child #1 was named one of two names we were considering, #2 was named something we had never even talked about before as none of our shortlisted names seemed appropriate for her, #3 was named one of the two names we took with us.

I like waiting to see them, spend a day or even a few hours looking at them before I finalize the name.

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Sat, 11-04-2006 - 9:29pm
My husband and I had thrown a few names around before the birth of our 1st. We didn't know the gender and didn't really take any firm names in with us. While in the hospital we talked a bit about them and made a short list. The girl in the bed next to me had a name book and we chose one out of there eventually. We waited until the very last day you have to name the baby before they put Baby (your last name) on the birth certificate. With the 2nd we had no idea at all. We named him about 2 weeks after he was born.
With this next one coming in March, I want some definate contenders as after my c-section I just want to relax and not stress on names.
Sorry so long and good luck!

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Sat, 11-04-2006 - 9:43pm

I would rather pick the name ahead of time, when there's time and resources to look up names and think it through, rather than making a rash decision in the stress of the hospital.

 
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Sun, 11-05-2006 - 4:06am

We waited until delivery-- and took 2 girl names in with us (didn't know the sex either, but we were baffled as to a boy's name! Good thing we ended up having a girl!) We decided if she was blond, fair, loud or gurgly she would be named Annabel. If she was brunette, dark, quiet, calm, she'd be named Charlotte. We knew in the delivery room she was a Charlotte...

Of course, now we have a blond, blue eyed, LOUD, very chatty little 3 yr old named Charlotte and it seems perfect so no matter what you choose, once you name her it will seem right!

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Sun, 11-05-2006 - 9:15am

Whoo, I couldn't do it. It would be a good idea to at least discuss names with your DH and take a list with you to the hospital. It'll be much easier to choose from a short list of names you and DH both like than to go in completely cold. Of course, you can still change your mind completely.

Before my ds was born, I was almost 100% certain of his name, but I took several alternates with me to the hospital just in case Noah Harrison didn't "fit". After meeting him, though, Noah felt perfect. It's funny, but my family was recently discussing my alternate choices and how not one of them would suit Noah at all...but he could be a Zach, a name I never considered.


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