WDYT of Surprises?

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WDYT of Surprises?
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Mon, 02-21-2005 - 6:33pm

Just wondering what actions you took regarding "surprises".

Did you find out the sex of your baby? Why or Why not?

Also, will you tell anyone the name you and your dh have chosen? If so, Who? If not, Why?

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Registered: 08-28-2003
Tue, 02-22-2005 - 9:54am

Hi :) I'm not currently pg but thought I would weigh-in regarding my ds (who is 3 now). Dh really did not want to find out the sex, he really wanted it to be a surprise. I probalby would have broken down and found out if it was just me, but I toughed it out and loved it being a surprise with him. Plus, I liked how it pushed us to be gender neutral with things for his room.

As for names, we did share (and I would with the next baby) our name choices with family and any friends who inquired after we chose them. Now if I had thought there would be issues with family members trying to get us to use a certain name or being really critical, I probably would not have told them...LOL

fun questions :)

Marguerite
mom to Trevor Mason

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Registered: 06-22-2003
Tue, 02-22-2005 - 10:01am
We did not find out the sex ahead of time for our son and we loved it that way! What an exhilarating surprise when he was born! Plus it is exciting for other people waiting to hear the news-instead of, "oh, she had her baby boy" they ask, "what did she have??? If we have another child we will wait to find out the sex again!
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Registered: 09-29-2003
Tue, 02-22-2005 - 10:13am

I'm not currently pg either, but I'll give my input.


We did not find out the sex of the baby.


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Registered: 03-25-2003
Tue, 02-22-2005 - 10:15am

We did not find out the gender of either of our children.

becky, max and greta
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Registered: 08-28-2003
Tue, 02-22-2005 - 10:21am

I completely agree with you, my dh always said that birth is *supposed* to hold that surprise...and your'e right-everyone has fun predicting and wondering which it will be...I hadn't really thought about that, I guess it was all about "me" in my world...LOL We will be surprised again next time too, I'm sure :)

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Tue, 02-22-2005 - 12:27pm

When I had my son I didnt want to know ahead of time but it was OBVIOUS in the ultra sound. We are getting ready to ttc and do not want to know until he/she is born. As far as names, I shared some ideas with some people but did not decide until the drive to the hospital and it wasn't anything we had ever mentioned. I think i will keep the name decision a secret next time too

Tracie

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Registered: 04-28-2003
Tue, 02-22-2005 - 4:11pm

We didn't find out with either of our kids. I preferred it that way. For one thing, you get twice as many presents, LOL. I got practical baby things at my baby shower, then after DS was born everone sent baby boy items, because you can't resist buying cute baby clothes!

Also It added a little suspense to the birth. I think when people know they are having a girl and her name is going to be Hannah, then it is like "Hannah is here!" ho hum. When it is a surprise (also with names) people are excited to see what you have and what name you picked.

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Tue, 02-22-2005 - 5:55pm

We wanted the birth of our first child to be a surprise and chose NOT to find out the gender ...


An added element in our situation, our DS is adopted and his birthmother KNEW she was having a boy & had to keep it a secret from us throughout her pg - is was soooo tough on her, but we insisted on not knowing!

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Registered: 06-14-2003
Wed, 02-23-2005 - 8:16am
OK, I'm the odd man out. With baby #1 we didn't find out. I agree w/ the element of surprise & the excitement of it all. When I was pg w/ #2 & #3, however, I just had to know. I can't explain why ... I guess it's just that the technology is there so go ahead & use it. By the time I was pg w #4 I absolutely had to know, no doubt about it. I had 3 boys by then & REALLY wanted a girl. I figured I needed to know because, yes, I would be disappointed w/ another boy. By knowing whether it was another boy I'd be able to come to terms w/ the fact of another boy & deal w/ my feelings during the pregnancy instead of right there at birth when you're supposed to be overwhelmed w/ joy at the sight of your new baby. Well, it worked. I found out I was carrying boy #4! I cried for 3 days straight & then got over it. His birth was wonderful & I love that little guy to death. I was glad I dealt w/ all those emotions 4 1/2 months before his birth rather than at his birth & for the few days following when your hormones are all over the place already!
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Wed, 02-23-2005 - 8:43am
I have never known anyone to treat the birth of a much wanted and loved baby as ho hum whetther or not the gender and name were known in advance.

Pat

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