WDYT of Surprises?

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WDYT of Surprises?
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Mon, 02-21-2005 - 6:33pm

Just wondering what actions you took regarding "surprises".

Did you find out the sex of your baby? Why or Why not?

Also, will you tell anyone the name you and your dh have chosen? If so, Who? If not, Why?

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Wed, 02-23-2005 - 3:21pm

With my first two pregnancies I didn't find out the sex and did not tell anyone the names we had chosen. So, my two girls were a total surprise. With #3, I had to find out the sex. I guess because this was going to be my last pregnancy and like the pp mentioned I just had to know if I was going to have a boy or another girl. We found out I was having a boy and did share that news with everyone, however, we did not disclose the name we chose until after he we born. So, there was still some element of surprise.

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Thu, 02-24-2005 - 3:40pm

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Thu, 02-24-2005 - 8:21pm
imnot a big perosn for surprises-i wanted to know with all 3 of my girls.with #1 hubby said no and we didnt because he cam to all appts with me.with #2 we couldnt find out since the only us they did was at 10wks.with #3 i made it clear from 1st appt we wanted to know since she was to be our last at 30wks they did a us and told us.now for namesas soon as we decided we told.i would say its not sure tho but tahts where its headed
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Thu, 02-24-2005 - 10:54pm

We find out. We're just the "planning" type, and, frankly, we have a family that REALLY like to be able to pre-purchase for the baby in shades other than mint green and yellow. We are in the minority, however, among those we know. They say things like, "there are so few good surprises in life, and this is one of them." I, personally, want to sort of feel like I "know" my baby and can call it by name even before he/she is born. It's really a personal (and personality) preference. Do you love the rush of a fantastic surprise, or do you like to have things planned out and ready when the huge event comes? We are the latter and feel that knowing our baby is healthy is what we focus on. Such an individual thing...but I do know those who "don't want to know" that spend forever looking at ultrasound pix trying to figure it out! :-)

As far as name, we told everyone the first time, and we are not doing so this time around. With our son, we had his name picked out forever, but changed what we were going to actually CALL him in, like, the sixth or seventh month. We were going with William Andrew and calling him Drew, but then we decided on Will later. My mom (see note about family members who like to buy above) had already bought him something with "Andrew" on it at that point. It wasn't a big deal, but we just want to have flexibility up to the end this time...PLUS since we've made it known that this child completes our family, some people are getting a bit pushy with some family names. (Gee, I hope no one I know reads this.) SOOOOO, we are going to give THEM the surprise of not knowing the name this time around...and I wish I'd done it the first time, too.

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Sat, 02-26-2005 - 10:14am
with dd1 we didnt find out the sex but discussed names with F&F. with dd2 we didnt find out the sex and didnt discuss names with F&F. mainly becasue I didnt want to hear if I was considering a name that family memebers or friends were considering as well. Didnt want to be accused of stealing a name. I dont play that game but unfortunatly some do. We loved not knowing the baby's sex both times- there is no better surprise in life!

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