When you ask for opinions on names...
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When you ask for opinions on names...
| Tue, 09-12-2006 - 5:57pm |
When you ask us for opinions on names do you REALLY want us to tell you the truth when we hate the names? OR do we just pretend to like them. An opinion goes both ways and with some names some are picking I'm just like...whoa you have to be kidding. Some are good some bad and some are just horrible. So far I've just not given my opinion when I hate the names but sometimes I'm just dying to say OMG don't name that poor little baby that. Just curious what you all think.
Tammy edd: 2-19 identical twin girls

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I personally would want to be told if the names I chose were horrendous. If I didn't care what others thought, I wouldn't ask for an opinion. I'd just name my kid that and shrug off what others say.
But if a person asks, I think it's open for honesty both ways, love it or hate it. .
I"m glad you said that. I'd want to know the truth too if I say.... "what do you think of the name "Hildiguard Allegria" for a girl...or "Elactutia Evangaloth" for a boy.... and if yall didnt say I was NUTS for picking those names I"d fall over laughing. lol Seriously on one board a mommy 2 be asked us what we thought of the name Electrocute for a boy... and they all just said well um.... nice. I just kept my trap shut. And it was HARD. lol
Tammy edd: 2-19 identical twin girls
OH I forgot...another name someone asked me if I liked for her daughter is "Lard" YES Lard...as in lardbutt. That poor baby would be made fun of her whole life. I think the pregnancy hormones are REALLY acting up tonight because I am finally coming clean about many of the names I"m asked if I like.... lol
Tammy edd: 2-19 identical twin girls
I personally want honest opinions, but I agree that not everyone seems receptive to honesty. If I only wanted to hear good things I would ask for applause, not opinions.
I rarely say that I hate a name (unless it's a poll and that's one of the choices). But I'll say I don't like a name and why. And I try to point out that others may not share my opinion.
If someone asks for an opinion on a board like this, I think we should be honest but try to do it nicely.
If the post asks for opinions, I try to be honest, because often that person would like to know the reason you don't like a particular name, rather than just saying "that name is horrible," KWIM? If they specifically say that they're settled on a certain name and don't want opinions/suggestions concerning it, I don't give my opinion. If it's a poll or something that doesn't ask for opinions, but doesn't say they don't want any, I may or may not post a reply with opinions/observations about the names, depending on my reasons for doing so. For example, if a poll lists names of various styles, and I like two or three but one really seems to fit best with their other children's names while the others don't work as well for some reason, I might reply with those reasons for my vote.
When it comes to my own posts, I know many might not be familiar with some of the names on my list, so I'll often recognize that in my original post to try and avoid a bunch of "I've never heard it so I don't like it" type comments. Other than that, however, honest opinions are always welcome. ;)
~Kelli
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Kelli, sounds great! Thanks for your honest opinion and the opinions of others...I just didn't know how to handle some names. Thing is...no matter what labels these babies will have when they are born, they will ALL be soooooo precious!!!
Tammy edd: 2-19 identical twin girls
I agree with the idea of polite honesty. GIve a reason so that we all know why you dislike the name, but please do so nicely because most of us asking for opinions want the truth but are also pg with hormones going crazy !!!!
melissa
When I post asking for opinions, I am looking for honest but tactful opinions. However, I sometimes get annoyed when someone says all my names are too old-fashioned. Obviously, that is the style I am looking for and is a matter of taste. If someone posts asking for an opinion, and NONE of the names are my style, but there's nothing wrong with them otherwise, I just refrain from giving an opinion, figuring we just have different naming styles.
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I'm not pregnant or TTC, but I love names so that's why I come here. When I give an opinion, I usually try to say why I like or dislike a name. Sometimes, it's only my own personal association with the name that will cause me to dislike something. So if, for example, a Gwen tried to move in on my BF, that might have me hate that name, lol...which obviously wouldn't really affect the OP at all...but if it's something like, "well, it reminds me of Rodney Dangerfield"-- that's someone that a larger population would associate and might be something the OP would want to consider, kwim?
Also, I have certain likes and dislikes that tend to be universal when I'm deciding on how to classify my opinions on a name- I typically like names with 2+ syllables, flowy, and "feminissima" for girls and strong, masculine, somewhat traditional but yet not common names for boys. I don't really like last-names-as-first-names for either sex, but yet some of them are growing on me, so while I might not like it for a child of my own, I might still be able to appreciate the name on someone else's child. I don't like "tryndee" names and/or spellings, not a big fan of girls names ending in "-son", and a couple of other "staples" that tend to come to mind regarding my own personal criteria, lol...for the most part, I try to stick to saying what I like and don't like about the name, and would never just give a blanket statement of "that name is horrible". Also, sometimes a statement could SOUND either positive or negative, but it really depends on the person reading it...and even them, some might consider it a neutral statement.
For example, if I say "that sounds like a last name to me"... it's a LITTLE negative in my OWN mind, b/c I don't really like "last names as first names"- but for someone that LIKES that naming style, it's a positive statement! :-)
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