Will I find a name I love as much? (m)
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| Wed, 11-23-2005 - 11:38am |
I've had a certain girls name picked out forever. I've literally wanted to name my child this since I was in junior high school. Even before we started thinking of having kids, I told DH about the name and he didn't like it. We've gone round and round and he finally relented. Now that we are pregnant with a girl though, I'm starting to wonder if I should back off my beloved name and pick something the two of us both like. I just don't want him to dislike his DD's name. But every name that he's proposed, I hate! I've told him that I don't want a top 20 name, which he thinks is silly b/c he says we should choose a name based on what we like and not worry about how many other kids in baby's class will have the same name. To throw another wrench in the plans, we're an interracial couple, so we want to avoid names that sound too "ethnic" either way.
I don't really know why I'm writing this, unless its maybe just to get it off my chest, and get opinions. He's accepted the name that I love, so should I just go with it, since I've loved it for so long or should I try to come up with something we can both agree on? Also, I'm open to any suggestions of not super trendy names that I may not have thought of :)
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I guess we should start with...what name have you picked out?? Is it something way out there and is that why DH doesn't like it?
I understand having a name you really like and DH doesn't. I also have a girls name that I love, but DH doesn't--maybe that's why we are expecting our third boy!! For our second son, we had names picked out that we both could agree on, but once he was born, he just didn't "look" like those names. So after some thinking, we both agreed he looked like "Aaron" and that is his name! Now Aaron was a name that DH said NO to before, but thought it fit him once he was born.....so you never know.
Theresa
No, Zoe is not that out there, so it must not be Dh's style. I would continue to compile a list of names that you both can agree on, and take the list with you to the hospital when you go into labor. You would be surprised, you may both take one look and say, "Yep, she's our Zoe" or you may say, "Huh? Not a Zoe, but she looks like ______!!!"
Good luck!!
Theresa
I would imagine that once your daughter is born that your dh will love her so much that he will eventually come to love any name that she's been given! On the other hand, I think that if you don't use the name you've always loved so much, you will always feel bad about that and possibly have some regrets. I know that I changed my 3rd son's name because my family hated the name dh and I chose and now 5 yrs later I still don't love the name we finally gave him as much as our original choice. If dh gave "Zoe" his ok, then maybe let him choose a mn that he likes!
Good luck!
~Mona~
So when are you due? Maybe by the time she is born, he will be so used to the idea that he couldn't imagine her as anything else. I know my mom really didn't like my sister's choice for one of her sons (Caden). When they found out they were having a boy, everyone started calling the unborn baby Caden and by the time he was born, no one could imagine him being named anything else. It TOTALLY fits him.
If you want to start another list of names, just in case... here are a couple ideas that might strike your fancy:
Chloe
Shelby
Delaney
Halle (I have a friend with 2 dd's, Zoe and Halle)
Hannah (but it's top 20, sorry)
Sydney
Good luck!!!
I was suppsoed to be a Elsa or Hilda
Thank you to everyone who offered their encouragement. I'm only 4 months, so we still have time, but I do think we will take a short list of 3 or 4 names to the hospital, just in case.
Also, thanks for the suggestions, I do like Chloe and Halle, both very cute and not super common. Also I like Minna, can you tell me what it means Hanna?
Thanks again!
Steph
Minna