is this wrong-family death and a name
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is this wrong-family death and a name
| Mon, 06-12-2006 - 10:49am |
hi
I’m 18 years old and about to have my first child, scary and all yes but what i need help on is naming my child. we aren’t totally sure or the sex yet but we are hoping its a boy is so were naming it Skyler Cody, Cody is after my cousin who passed away in march, so i talked about this is my cousins, there sister and through disagreements of other sorts they told me that they didn't want my child ( along with some pretty nasty names) named after there brother, now i wonder if its wrong to name my child after him even if they asked me not to or if to ignore them because me and him had such a great relationship, some one please help before this turns in to more of a family problem
I’m 18 years old and about to have my first child, scary and all yes but what i need help on is naming my child. we aren’t totally sure or the sex yet but we are hoping its a boy is so were naming it Skyler Cody, Cody is after my cousin who passed away in march, so i talked about this is my cousins, there sister and through disagreements of other sorts they told me that they didn't want my child ( along with some pretty nasty names) named after there brother, now i wonder if its wrong to name my child after him even if they asked me not to or if to ignore them because me and him had such a great relationship, some one please help before this turns in to more of a family problem

while you should respect the wishes of the family, you would think such an honorable thing as naming your child in his memory would be a welcomed thing.
&nb
I would not name him after your deceased cousin if his immediate family does not want you to. If, down the road, you all are still not getting along, then i would hate for them to drag your child into it because of his name. While it is a nice thought and gesture, I think i would choose a different name for my child if i were you - and avoid conflict.
Melissa
Melissa
Mom to Scott Nicholas, Wyatt Christopher, and Phoebe Jane
sorry for the Cl hat
Perhaps the reason that the siblings of your cousin do not want your baby named for him is because they would like the honor of having the first baby named for him someday. When my cousin had her 2nd child, she considered naming him for my father but then realized that it was for my sisters or I to do that if we had a son someday
sounds fair to me! i would like to believe it is only bc they are grieving or want to reserve the name for their children, but it would be ridiculous if they were just doing it to be ugly or get at you.
hope it goes well for you!
&nb