grandmother to be needs help

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Registered: 03-22-2004
grandmother to be needs help
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Fri, 12-14-2012 - 1:24am

My almost 17 year son has gotten his 15 year old girlfriend pregnant.  One a good note, I'm very proud of him for stepping up and being there for her.  He has moved 3 hours away from us to live with her and her 20 year old sister as her mom comes and goes as she pleases.  I've gotten my son a really good job with the company i work for in the branch up in his new town and he is finishing school thru an outreach school.  But my problem is, she is about 10 weeks, (by my guess just from him telling me in oct when she came to visit that it was her time,)  she has not seen a dr yet,  i have talked and talked and talked to them about the importance of this for her, she is very young which makes her high risk,  she is suffering from severe morning sickness all day, throwing up, etc.  My son claims he took her to the emergency room and they said she has the flu, but i wonder if they even told the dr she was pregnant.  She had an appt with her family dr on monday to get a referral for an obgyn, but she didnt go as my son was working.  Where was her sister, whats wrong with the bus, or a cab or even walking.  I'm very frustrasted and concerned.  they dont understand how important this is, she thinks nothing of taking tylenol and who knows what else since she has no support.  I've only met her a couple of times due to the travel distance and trhu facebook, i'm trying to be supportive, but not pushy, but yet I feel i have to get pushy.  any advice on how i make these 2 young people get their butts to the dr.

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Registered: 04-18-2012
Fri, 12-14-2012 - 2:07pm

Oh dear.  What a situation .  I can understand why you don't want to be pushy.  I know at that age the more my mom pushed, the more I pushed her away.  Is there any way you could go to them this weekend or sometime soon?  Maybe sit down with them, discuss your concerns, see what you can do to help, etc?  Perhaps if they see that you are on their side, they'll be more willing to listen to your advice?  Otherwise, is the girl still going to school?  Perhaps you could encourage her to speak to a counselor or school nurse?  I'm sure they'd be sure to push prenatal care as well.