i want to but im scared

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Registered: 11-14-2011
i want to but im scared
Mon, 11-14-2011 - 7:51pm
Hello everyone

wel first off i joined this site because everyone "seems " supper friendly... Well my mame is michelle i am 22 and have a 2 year old son isaac and i 4 month old baby girl who was born sleeping on July 2 2011 just 4 days before my sheduled c section...i was 38 weeks .i never thooight or imagined this would happen to ME....o was debestated crushed my world stopped for a moment and i wont deny i felt anger and very hurt...HOW COULD GOD DO THIs TO ME !!!!! But ive had some time to think and feflect and i dont blame anyone especially my God i kno he onky gives us wat we can handle and never more and i thank him because he has made me a stronger person.....but now i feel like i wanna try again but im kinda scared i really need reasuring thoyghts and i know every prg is diffrent but i just dont want it to happen again ugh...sigh....pls help
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Registered: 06-26-2008
Tue, 11-15-2011 - 9:05am

A sad welcome to our group, Michelle.

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Registered: 04-14-2007
Tue, 11-15-2011 - 10:05am
Hi Michelle Welcome to the group! I'm so sorry about your daughter. Sadly we are all too familiar with this experience, and I am sorry you have had to go through it too. It is completely normal to want to try again, and to be scared. I don't think that fear ever really goes away, in fact even after having two healthy children after my first baby was stillborn, I was very scared during my pgs and still get very nervous about them and if they're safe/healthy/etc. It's so hard. Has your doctor given you any advice or thoughts about when to ttc again? Everyone is different and sometimes there is a reason to wait while other times it's ok to go for it. Also, it is helpful to talk to your doctor about how your care would be handled in a subsequent pregnancy - will they see you more frequently/do extra testing even if just for reassurance? These are good questions to ask to be sure that you'll get the care you need. Anyway, again, I'm so sorry about all that you've been through. I always find that grief is not linear, and sometimes we make a lot of progress and then backtrack a bit. So try not to put too much pressure on yourself in that respect. 4.5 years later and it is still two steps forward, 1.5 steps back for me. Wishing you the best! Feel free to ask any questions and/or just jump in and get to know us!


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Registered: 02-01-2008
Wed, 11-16-2011 - 4:16pm

Hi Michelle.