Bionic Toddler

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Registered: 11-29-2005
Bionic Toddler
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Sat, 03-28-2009 - 10:39pm
Seriously, how many Bionic Toddler Meltdowns do you endure per day? Robert just had a meltdown so bad Mike told me to get him a psych consult. (makes nervous laugh) In all fairness, poor little guy has been cooped up all week with either him being sick or Elliot being too sick to leave the house. Plus it's been raining too much to go outside. The kid is climbing the walls and everything is pissing him off. Calling all moms here with kids 2-3yo. Tell me what's going on at your house. Put me in perspective. I recall my older kids making me crazy when they were toddlers, but Sobbing Bobby seems to be in the big leagues. That kid can CRY like it's his job!


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Registered: 07-06-2007
In reply to: thebetty
Sun, 03-29-2009 - 2:10am

Betty,
I've had days where there were more tantrums than quiet time. We've had 3 hours of solid kicking the wall screaming. Neighbors looking in windows while I am seriously worried that we have a serious issue brewing. And then all the sudden the storm clears. I remember a few weeks where she tried to control every single thing with her screaming. We still go in and out of it but not as much.

I have read Raising your Spirited Child (rec. from ped) and Making the Terrible Twos terrific.

You, me, we are not alone in this. I had several posts recently about
"Furious George" because I was losing my mind.

Deep breaths and tall cocktails. :)

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Registered: 03-20-2009
In reply to: thebetty
Sun, 03-29-2009 - 9:56am

Well, is it always like this or is it worse because he has been cooped up? Maybe it seems like its always like this because it was a long week, kwim? Is he just running around like a chicken with his head cut off or is it something specific that is triggering it? (Audrey sometimes has jealousy or no-nap meltdowns, I can usually attribute them to one or the other.)

Try getting him out every day next week and see if its better. I know Auds is terrible if we dont get out and do something. but from what you are saying your terrible seems a little worse than ours but maybe its cause he is a boy and needs more external stim, kwim?

There are indoor run around places you can take him to around there, no? playgroups? classes? I know you usually do these things so hopefully it was just a bad week w/cabin fever.

(hugs) dont know how you do this w/ 2 babies and 2 teens!!

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Registered: 04-06-2007
In reply to: thebetty
Sun, 03-29-2009 - 2:11pm
Chris- I am so glad you posted this. Not glad you're going through it, but glad you posted. I came very close to posting something very similar last week (same day my Facebook status referenced needing an exorcist), but in the end I didn't because I really didn't want to hear, "Nope, my kid isn't that bad." I wasn't sure my fragile, hormonal psyche could handle it. As for us, there are a few days here and there that we endure no meltdowns (and I have figured out that the ONLY way this happens is if both of us is in a zippety-doo-dah kind of mood). On average, we probably have 2 or 3 a day. And then there are the days that have me debating between an exorcist and a psychiatrist. ALL. DAY. LONG. I have discovered that at the moment Lucas is not tolerating any deviation from the routine at all. If we do naptime and bedtime at the same time every day and stick to errands Monday, gymnastics Tuesday, Kindermusik Wednesday, library Thursday and playgroup Friday, we do better. An hour late on nap or going out of town or having grandparents visit sends him into a tailspin. I am worried about this, hoping it is just toddler inflexibility and not some personality trait (actually, I know it is partly his personality... he has 2 type A parents... I am just hoping he can be a little more flexible as he gets older). I am also super psyched about how bringing new baby home will go down considering this little stage. Perhaps it is his reaction to knowing that something major is happening. I dunno. Anyway, the other thing I have figured out is, like you've said, they smell fear (frustration, short fuses, etc.). On days when I am not my absolute best (which is most days lately), forget it. It's like he knows. Or he's just picking up on my frustration and getting frustrated himself (can't blame him really, it's no fun to be around someone who is grumpy). Anyway. You're not alone at all. Like both you and Annie, there have been days I was seriously worried that his meltdowns are beyond normal.

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Registered: 01-12-2004
In reply to: thebetty
Sun, 03-29-2009 - 9:34pm

You sure are not alone with this problem. These past couple of weeks we've been struggling with temper tantrums, aggression towards Emma, me, DH, the dog (poor thing), and not listening to a single thing I tell/ask her to do (at least it seems like every single thing!!!)
It gets worse if she gets up early or doesn't nap for long. And it gets really bad if I'm having a rough day, I can tell that she feeds off my stress and sleep deprivation.




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Registered: 04-23-2007
In reply to: thebetty
Sun, 03-29-2009 - 10:24pm

Chet,


I have zero advice because I am not there yet. I will, however, give Ro fair warning and file this away as a mental note when it happens that it is somewhat "normal". I have found that I am pretty tolerant, and can handle the occasional mood swings around here, but Ro is not as good as chalking things up to regular almost 2 year old behavior. I keep telling him that he hasn't seen anything yet and I am not quite sure he believes me.


Sending you a hug.

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Registered: 05-06-2003
In reply to: thebetty
Sun, 03-29-2009 - 10:53pm

I ditto everything Anne says. Especially the part about them smelling fear (I seem to recall that you gave me similar advice not long ago)! There have been times were we have seriously thought that there was something wrong with him, only to come to our senses and realize he's 3.

I know he's a bit older then Robear, but the tantrums can be a sight to behold. Some days are definitely better then others and then there are the days that make both us want to curl up in the fetal position. Some days are completely tantrum free until I walk in the door and then it's down hill from there.

You are not alone.

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Registered: 06-14-2003
In reply to: thebetty
Mon, 03-30-2009 - 12:41am

Hi.

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Registered: 01-11-2006
In reply to: thebetty
Mon, 03-30-2009 - 11:09am

All I can say is "Are you kidding me???".

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Registered: 10-13-2004
In reply to: thebetty
Mon, 03-30-2009 - 4:29pm
OMG. KMN. Thank you very much for that little glimpse at the crystal ball.
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Registered: 01-27-2005
In reply to: thebetty
Tue, 03-31-2009 - 5:50am

Chris,


Robert has an identical twin, he lives in New Hampshire, and his name is Luke!


Thank you for posting this - we're going through the exact same thing here!

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