My baby is now 4 months old.
Haley a.k.a. Mrs. A
I EBF my twins and Danny dealt with a bottle in the way that you describe. I did go to work once a week, and leave them for 5-6 hours. He would eat maybe an ounce or two and then freak out when I came home and eat forever. My 2 cents on this is that it may be easier to just feed her by breast when you are out. Certainly if she HAD to eat bottles, I'm sure she would after a few days, but I can't imagine she would pick a bottle if you are there. The times we were at all successful with bottles were when I wasn't home.
As for juice, this is just my opinion but I don't see any reason to do it when they're that young. I don't do it now, and mine are two. Water, maybe, if juice is ok?
RebeccaMom to Daniel & Abigail 4/8/07
2005 5 IUIs + stims---all BFN4/06 IVF #1 BFN8/06 FET #1 BFP. Boy/girl twins 4/071/10 IVF #2. BFP. Lost baby 4/10 at 11 weeks. 7/10 IVF #3 . BFP. Baby #3 due 4/8/11.
I agree with Rebecca about not introducing juice either.
When my babies wouldn't take a bottle, I had to have someone else try to give them a bottle. It wouldn't work when they could see me or hear me or smell me! If you think about it, that makes a lot of sense. Would you prefer to have wonderful food that was made just for you at the perfect temperature while you are being held by your favorite person, or would you want to have a subsitute in a plastic bottle?
If you really want you baby to take a bottle, you'll probably need someone else to work on giving her the bottle when you are not around. You can just be in another room or outside, but if she sees you, she'll want you!
I definitely found that going out when I was exclusively nursing was easier than we were dealing with bottles. If you want any tips/suggestions about where to nurse when you are out and about, I'd be happy to share what I did. I definitely found that nursing in public got easier over time though.
Haley, my 10mo Elliot will also not take a bottle under any circumstances. He won't take bottles no matter what's in it; formula, BM, anything. He won't take it from me, from dad, brothers, even if I'm not there and even if he's starving. This makes my working out of the home very tricky, gotta be home in 5hrs no matter what (rolls eyes). I've found its just easier for me to nurse, even if I'm out and about. I just don't care about BFing in public and REALLY I don't think I've ever been cast the stink-eye over it, not even when I BF my older kids in 1991 and 1993 when it wasn't exactly stylish. If you're feeling shy about it, try to get over it. Nobody cares, I assure you. and those who do are just a$$holes anyway. Its easy math; feed baby or appease some hung-up JA you don't even know...hmmmm. Boobs are there TO FEED BABIES.
I guess if your baby (and mine) were truly starving they would take formula eventually, right? I've never done that the hard way because it just wasn't worth starving my kid over. 12mo goes by fast enough kwim?
I also disagree emphatically with your doctor. Your baby is not old enough for juice. I wouldn't give juice to any baby under 18mo, and even then I would water it way down. Juice just makes you fat, rots your teeth, and creates bad eating habits.
Thank you for all your responses.
Hi Haley!I'm sorta in the same boat as you. Mack just chews and chews on the bottle. I have to give her about a 1/2 oz BM daily with her iron supplement so she doesn't have a choice. She gets daily practice with that small amount and has slowly started to suck on it. If you pump an ounce, just split it into 3 servings and give her a tiny bit in a bottle every day for practice. It helped her get in bottle mode again after the NICU.
But here is the kicker...she still doesn't want a bottle from anyone.
I know how you feel about getting out. I am always feeding in the Costco and Home Depot parking lot. You want comfortable?? Just add a 3 year old in the passenger seat and hope she stays happy waiting for the baby to eat. :)
She'll get there. You will see freedom again. I promise.
Oh Annie, I could just imagine you in the car with Fi and Mack.
Do you use a boppy to nurse at home? If so, do you carry it with you when you are out? When we were going to be out for a while (like when we took an all day trip to Yosemite), I carried the boppy with me. I definitely found this help me get comfortable. I have some back issues anyway (and I was having more problems because of my twin pregnancy) so being comfortable was very important.
This time when you are exclusively nursing your baby is gone in a flash. My twins rarely took a bottle once I transitioned them to the breast and they flat out refused a bottle at some point. We didn't start solids until they were 6 months corrected age (7 1/2 months old). Now they are 4 years old and that time when they were exclusively nursing seems like forever ago.
In a few months, you'll be able to nurse and have someone give your baby solids and you'll be able to leave for several hours in a row. I think we started to go out to see movies when our twins were about 9 or 10 months old. I wasn't comfortable leaving our twins at bedtime until they were a year old, but I realized later on they would have done fine sooner if I had left them at home.
As far as the wedding, I can share what I thought I would do if we went to a wedding when our babies were exclusively bf. We ended up not going, but I had figured it out. I was going to hire a babysitter to watch my babies during the wedding ceremony. I was going to make arrangements for the babies to be in the church complex with the babysitter so I could enjoy the wedding, but I knew it wouldn't work to have them in the church with me. Then I was going to take the babies to the reception, possibly with the help of the sitter.
I was also thinking that the bf board suggests using alternative feeding methods for older babies who won't take a bottle. There are some examples here... http://www.kellymom.com/bf/pumping/alternative-feeding.html. If you scroll all the way down, you'll see some info about sippy cups and momsicles.