gift ideas for friend who lost her twins

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Registered: 03-11-2006
gift ideas for friend who lost her twins
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Thu, 08-05-2010 - 11:54pm

hi ladies,
i am hoping you all can help me brain storm some good ideas. as you may recall, a dear friend/coworker delivered and lost her IVF twins at 23 weeks back in april, and her due date (and 31st birthday) are coming up on august 25th. she's already agreed to let us take her to lunch, but doesn't want any other pomp and circumstance, understandably.

the agency we work for as a group made a sizeable donation to the march of dimes shortly after the babies passed, but i really want to do something as her DD approaches to honor the memory of the babies.

she has been very stoic throughout everything, which is totally her personality, and she seems to be holding up alright but i know she is not getting any counseling or even seeking out support elsewhere. i think she just wants to forget it ever happened.

i'm wondering if anyone has any suggestions for a small gift that might be appropriate given the circumstances. maybe some kind of jewelry (something her husband should do, but probably never would - he doesn't so much as SAY happy birthday on her bday. it's weird.) or some other token to let her know that we (myself and a few of our closest friends at work) love her and have not and WILL NOT forget her loss.

thanks in advance ladies. i know this is a delicate topic, but i'm at a loss, and i know august 25th is going to be a difficult day.


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Registered: 07-19-2005
Fri, 08-06-2010 - 6:07pm

Mindy, I remember when you told us about your friend and was/am still heartbroken for her.

I'm posting a link for a website that makes personalized remembrance jewelry, there are some very nice pieces for infant loss on there. I've never ordered from them so can't vouch for them personally, but I liked what I saw, maybe you could check it out.

http://www.myforeverchild.com/