Help with Colic!

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Registered: 06-11-2007
Help with Colic!
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Fri, 03-13-2009 - 1:36pm

Hi Ladies-


Thought I would see if anyone could give me some advice. Madeline has colic (as I mentioned in her 2-month update). It showed up around 5-weeks and is going stronger than ever.

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Registered: 11-23-2004
In reply to: seglads
Fri, 03-13-2009 - 2:02pm

((((Stefanie)))),


I am so sorry you are dealing with this.

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Registered: 12-26-2006
In reply to: seglads
Fri, 03-13-2009 - 7:46pm

Hi, Stefanie ~


I think I might have died if I didn't have a Hotsling (or other such

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Registered: 06-05-2006
In reply to: seglads
Fri, 03-13-2009 - 8:51pm

((((HUGS)))


Stefanie, your post is bringing back memories of being alone with an infant and almost going insane!

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Registered: 04-06-2007
In reply to: seglads
Fri, 03-13-2009 - 9:24pm

Ok first things first - HUGE HUGS for you!! I do not have a ton of experience with this and so many of the Moms here do so I will only be brief in my suggestions.

1. Try getting a MOby or other type of wrap - and WEAR the baby - this may seem like it would make it worse - with her attached to you etc - but she can sleep and will probably sleep well in there and you can read a book - do the dishes or just REST!

2. Get a babysitter or a neighbor or something - for at least 1-2 hours a day! I know that may sound hard but you NEED to get out of that environment or you will loose your mind. Sara screamed at us for 2 hours a day for about 2 weeks and that nearly landed both of us in the loony bin - you have it MUCH worse and you NEED to take care of yourself. I suggest LEAVING the house - you need some air. Do you belong to a gym? Can you go use their showers and just stand there for as long as you can? Maybe just go to the book store for a cup of tea. Anything - you MUST take care of yourself.

3. Tell DH his habit of handing her to you after 45 mins is NOT going to work anymore. You NEED to work as a team on this or you will jump out of something. I know he is away and that it is harder for him since he isn't with her 24/7 but he needs to know how it is affecting you.

4. CIO is really for 4months and up - plus a colic baby will not just cry herself to sleep. I don't think so anyway - do you have a papisan swing? A Vibrating bouncy seat? Go on Craig's list and get these things asap! They may help her.

5. Stop beating yourself up - you are in a weakened state here - what with the Mastis and the Colic and the sleep deprivation - You are doing a GREAT job with Maddie and she WILL stop this whole colic thing soon - I promise - it's can't last forever.

Hang in there and please keep us updated and come here to vent all you need to.

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Registered: 04-11-2007
In reply to: seglads
Fri, 03-13-2009 - 9:45pm

Stephanie -


Ugh, colic sucks monkey balls!

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Registered: 07-06-2007
In reply to: seglads
Sat, 03-14-2009 - 3:51am

I'm so sorry Stefanie that you have it so rough right now. The good news is that in a few months it will be behind you. I know you just need to find ways to get through it.

I haven't had experience with colic but I thought I'd chime in on the nap thing.

Mack only naps ON me. I wear her in an Ergo carrier almost all day. If that would help Madelyn for a while, you might want to try it. It hurts my back after a while but it is still worth the sleep. She is slowly learning to sleep on her own during the day but took a 3 hour nap in the Ergo today.

I hope you can catch a break soon. Good luck and I hope your mastitis goes away soon.

hugs to you
annie

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Registered: 06-11-2007
In reply to: seglads
Sat, 03-14-2009 - 7:42am

Hi Cindy-


Thanks so much for the imput! We have found that Madeline does not like most things (and those she does are inconsistent). Like Jordan, she will sit in her bouncy seat--but that is only for

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Registered: 06-11-2007
In reply to: seglads
Sat, 03-14-2009 - 7:46am

Caren-


Thanks so much for responding! I haven't really tried infant massage--I saw it in the books but she is so squirmy I didn't think it would work. I will try and give it s shot today to see how it works.


As for hiring someone, it is really out of the picture. First, I wouldn't trust anyone other than family right now anyway. I would be uncomfortable the entire time which would defeat the purpose. My mother has been trying to come one day a week to help out--and while those days I get to eat and shower, in some ways it is more work having her here than not--plus, since Madeline is screaming the entire time I don't sleep anyway.


Thanks again for the support and help! I am going to look up the massage techniques in the book now! :)

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Registered: 06-11-2007
In reply to: seglads
Sat, 03-14-2009 - 7:51am

Hi Lisa-


We have tried the wrap/sling thing--I bought a Moby wrap and I have to tell you--I HATED it! It is such an ordeal to get on that by the time I had it on, she was screaming hysterically, I was frazlled, and when I put her in she just screamed. Maybe I should try it again--but I tried for about a week with no avail.


My DH helped out a lot at first--but I think he is frustrated with the screaming and feels helpless. I think that

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Registered: 06-11-2007
In reply to: seglads
Sat, 03-14-2009 - 7:57am

Reena-


Thanks so much for the support! Goodness-I cannot imagine my DH traveling if I had twins and a toddler!! You must have been going out of your mind.


You are right about getting out of the house--I have been struggling with where to take her as she screams everywhere. I find it so embarassing and stressful I have just stopped going. But, I guess if she screams for 5 minutes at Target, who cares right? I need to get over it.


A mom's group sounds like a good idea. I am going to go online today and look around. I needed adult contact so badly that even though I wasn't planning to go back to work I took some wraparound cases just to get out of the house and talk to others. In some ways, it adds a little stress-but it feels good to get away from the screaming and use my brain other than to sing or coo.


Andi e-mailed me about getting together too. I think that would be great. I will e-mail you guys through your profiles and maybe we can get together after you guys get back from Vegas! :) It would be nice to meet you IRL!


Thanks again for the support! I really appreciate it!

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