How do you explain Easter...

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How do you explain Easter...
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Fri, 04-10-2009 - 3:40pm

to a 4 year old? (or two of them?)


One of my friends - who is also not very religious - asked this question at our twins club meeting on Tuesday and I realized that I have the same question!


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Fri, 04-10-2009 - 4:51pm

LOL. My niece once said a similar thing to her dad. She was about 4 and quipped "you know dad, I've been thinking. You're going to have work everyday until you die". Nice. the next day she said "I've been thinking some more. I was wrong. You won't have to work everyday till you die because you always gonna have Sundays off". LMAO!!

I'm not religious, but was raised Presbyterian, so I know the story by heart. Its a scary story if you step back and think about it. I chose to go with the "Easter is a time to celebrate everything coming back to life" baby animals, flowers, trees, etc, which is essentially true. When they got a little older, I gave them a PG rated version. Kind of hard to separate out Passover from Easter as they're intertwined. Its a BIG story, very hard to distill. Like an onion, there are so many layers, and so much crying LOL. Its hard. Christmas is a SNAP. Easter is tough. Let I&M watch all 6 hrs of the Ten Commandments starring Charleton Heston. That'll get the ball rolling LOL.


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Fri, 04-10-2009 - 6:57pm

Melanie,


I googled this for you, and everything I find is about telling the story with a set of 12 eggs.

 


 


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Mon, 04-13-2009 - 7:53pm
I was wondering the exact same thing. Sarah really doesn't get the concept of death. The only experience she has is my ILs cat and we told he that he's in heaven and isn't coming back, but beyond that, we haven't had to explain it to her. I haven't been able to figure out how to explain Easter to someone who doesn't understand death.

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Tue, 04-14-2009 - 11:23am

Hi,


This whole thread is interesting to me even though I'm Jewish and don't have to explain Easter... but we did explain a bit about Passover to Lucy this year (she is 3). We gave her a very simplified version of the story, leaving out such details as "the slaying of the first born." Even then, Lucy offered her revisions ("No, Pharaoh didn't make the Jewish people work hard. He said, 'I will work with you so you won't be alone. And when I'm not there, you don't have to work.').


So far so good... but then Lucy asked, "Who is God?" That threw us for a loop! We offered up some explanations but I think we're going to have to do better!


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Tue, 04-14-2009 - 12:32pm
Same here, don't have to explain easter since we are Jewish, but in general at this age we stick to basics and leave out what may frighten or scare him or concepts that are just too big for a 5 year old and as he gets older he will learn more detailed explanations of things based on his age and maturity.

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Tue, 04-14-2009 - 10:21pm

I am trying to figure out how I am going to explain BOTH to Sara when she gets old enough. I am Jewish and we are going to raise her as Jewish primarily (going to temple and having a bat -mitzvah etc) - BUT She is celebrating a very non-religious version of x-mas and easter with my In Laws. I had to explain it pretty bluntly this weekend when my MIL said "She's only half jewish" in response to me making a joke about the jewish girl in her pretty easter dress. I had to explain that she is ALL Jewish (matralinial decent and all) with the bonus of having these other celebrations. But I am trying to figure out how to explain that to Sara without her becoming confused. I have already decided that I am gong to explain that Santa and The Easter Bunny don't visit us at our house but leave her nice things with Oma and Opa - but I don't know how to explain the reasons for those holidays (the birth and death of christ) without making it sound as if I don't "like" those holidays since I believe a different thing? Does that make sense??? I have time to figure it out but any ideas would be great!

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Wed, 04-15-2009 - 8:25am

We have a similar issue. I am Jewish DH isn't but we are raising the kids Jewish, which is similar to how I grow up, Dad is Jewish mom is not, so I have a leg up on handling these holidays. Now growing up while we did believe in Santa and we had stockings we knew Christmas was Nanies holiday and we'd go there for Christmas dinner. We never did much as far as Easter went. If it didn't fall over passover we'd go to my dad's friend's house. So sort of like that I tell my oldest Christmas and Easter are dad's holidays but we can help him celebrate. He believes in Santa and the Easter bunny and really kids need that. I don't see Santa or the Easter Bunny as religous but secular. I do tell my oldest Santa visits us because of daddy. I also explain that daddy and mommy have different beliefs, one isn't better then the other they are just different (sort of hopeful he can learn 2 lessons in that hoping he can also learn to respect other people's beliefs that are different from his own. There is no right religion its what you believe, if nothing else thats what I'd like them to take with them as the get older)


When it came to Easter dinner this weekend I told him we are going to Aunties to help her and uncle pete and jillie and grandma and grandpa celebrate their holiday. We did do easter baskets and again I told him that since daddy celebrates Easter but he's TOO old for a basket the Easter bunny left him one.


I don't get into the specifics at this point in what DH beleives and what we do, as gets older we will, but its come up a little in that in laws take him to church sometimes. Now my nanie did that if we were at her house for the weekend since she went every Sunday but she never talked religion with us. I do worry more about my in laws because I know I've had issues with FIL not understanding how I can not believe in Christ, so I usually have a little talk with Liam after I know he's been to church, going over we are Jewish we go to temple but its nice he can spend that time with grandma and grandpa and see how they worship but.....

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Fri, 04-17-2009 - 3:09pm

I was raised Catholic and hubby, Lutheran.

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