Non-CIO Mommies -- I Need Help

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Non-CIO Mommies -- I Need Help
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Thu, 03-26-2009 - 9:13pm

So we tried CIO a couple times and it didn't work well for us. It lasted over an hour several different times and some of them involved vomit. So, at least for now we've decided that CIO isn't for us.

So.......what do you do for the constant wake-ups? Any advice appreciated.

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Thu, 03-26-2009 - 9:27pm

We tried CIO with our guy to and not for us.

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Thu, 03-26-2009 - 10:03pm
Hi, Boni. I think the term you're looking for is graduated extinction. It really is just another form of CIO.
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Registered: 04-06-2007
Thu, 03-26-2009 - 10:36pm
Hey Sam! CIO worked well for us but it is not good for everyone - MW even says if your child gets so worked up to the point of vomitting that it is not a good idea to use that technique at that time. I would look into the Ferber method and the gradual extinction methods as well. Maybe Caden doesn't like something about his crib or the room or his schedule is just wacky? KWIM? Keep trying different things and you will find something that helps the little man sleep!
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Registered: 03-20-2009
Fri, 03-27-2009 - 9:37am

Hi, is he on baby food yet? I think you posted about this....since Ben has been eating a little baby food 3x a day mixed w/ rice cereal I am getting 7-8 hours at night (yahoo!) Are you mixing w/ cereal or just straight from the jar? I know Chris doesnt think its related LOL but for us, it seems to be.

Also we are doing exercises during the day for his arm and the PT said that wears them out. So maybe try little exercises with him, like legs up and down and arms up and down and rolling around a few times a day and see if that helps. It doesnt take much to wear them out!

Is he taking a full feeding when he wakes up or does he just need comfort? Ben takes a full 8 oz when he wakes up so I know he is really hungry if he does wake up. If Caden is just waking for comfort then he probably needs a little sleep training to learn to put himself back to sleep and unfortunately that does mean a little CIO but you can go in, comfort him (no talking) and then leave....

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Registered: 07-06-2007
Fri, 03-27-2009 - 7:38pm

Hey! I am on the fence with CIO. I NEVER could let Fi do it. She (like Mack) was very stubborn. It just didn't work for us. Fiona is now a 10 hour sleeper with no intervention so I do have hope.

I have read MW and in a perfect world I like his book. In my world I don't. I read "the no-cry sleep solution" by Elizabeth Pantley with Fi and really connected with they way she did it. It is a very gentle way of dealing with night waking. It does take patience...but I'd rather repeat everything 10x than listen to my baby cry.

I think some babies are great at CIO and just moving on. I wish mine was.

Try this book. It might give some ideas. :)

Oh, and with Fi I kept a sleep log every day for many many months. I kept track of feeding time to bed, time to wake, swaddled or not, rocked or not, and marked when I planned to no longer feed her at night. When the night feedings ended (8 months for her) I would just sit next to her crib in the dark and pat her back or rub her head until she calmed. I also bought a crib music box that she could turn on herself. I must have worked because she is a great sleeper now...knock on wood.

And...this sleep journal is so helpful with the second one. I refer back to Fiona's all the time to help me figure out how I did it before.

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Registered: 09-16-2003
Sat, 03-28-2009 - 7:16am

Hi Sam,


We used CIO with Isla at 6 months and it worked a treat but for the twins it is impossible as they wake each other up.

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Sat, 03-28-2009 - 11:56am

Kristen - Caden is on baby food, but I have not noticed a difference in his sleeping since we started it. I am making his baby food at this point -- at daycare they do not mix the fruit or veggie with his cereal. At dinnertime, I do usually mix one of them with his cereal.

Caren - I had planned to sign up for an infant massage class, but by the time I called they were full. Caden was also sleeping on his changing pad until he started rolling It worked wonders at the time. This week I just bought him a wedge for his crib and that seems to be helping.

Deb - We have moved back his bedtime -- we put him to bed when he starts getting fussy. We do start his bedtime bottle by 7:30.

Annie - I have been reading The No Cry Sleep Solution and have been employing the techniques. So far the light shhh, shhhing is working, plus his seems to love the little butt pats.

We are not feeding Caden in the middle of the night unless I know he ate less than usual. I am keeping track of all naps, feedings and night time sleeping and wakings. I have noticed that when he naps better during the day, then he sleeps better at night. It's hard with daycare to ensure he's getting adequate sleep. At daycare they use angel care monitors so we allow Caden to sleep with some light blankets -- he likes to have them propped up behind his back -- he loves to sleep on his side. At home we also use the angel care monitor so I roll up to small receiving blankets and prop them behind his back.

This is all just a big work in progress. We are doing baby steps and hope to keep making progress. I am dreading when he starts teething.

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