Potty advice?

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Potty advice?
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Fri, 03-27-2009 - 10:25am

I looked through all the posts and it seems no one ran into this or maybe just didnt post about it. So here is what is happening-

"Audrey lets sit on the potty"

"NO POTTY!!!!!!!!!!" sreams, cries etc. I drag her to the potty and we sit. We read, we wait for pee pee and nothing. So I am keeping her in the pull up and trying to go on the potty every 30 minutes. She pees and poops in the pull up in between times on the potty.

We have watched every potty video a few times, I have offered incentives. The one time she did go, I made a big deal, gave her a treat etc and praised her. I am not scolding or anything when she doesnt go, I am just saying "OK lets try again later. If you feel like you have to go, tell me and we will go." And then I am trying to get her on the potty at least 2x an hour.

One day I tried to leave her with no bottoms on. From 8 am to 12 noon, nothing. Then we sit down for lunch and its like a flood of pee pee on the chair about 4 times! I sat her on the potty in between but she didnt go. She didnt realize she was peeing until her foot was wet so is that an indicator that she is not ready? Can she not feel it when she has to go? WDYT? Any helpful ideas are appreciated!!!

Nite time diapers and nap diapers are still soaked.

Thanks

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Registered: 04-11-2007
In reply to: joiseygrrrl
Fri, 03-27-2009 - 2:05pm

At Audrey's age, Ty had no interest in actually peeing in the potty.

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In reply to: joiseygrrrl
Fri, 03-27-2009 - 2:21pm

My 2 cents:

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In reply to: joiseygrrrl
Fri, 03-27-2009 - 2:54pm

I know I should keep my trap shut on the topic after my little "He'll never potty train" meltdown followed relatively quickly by "Huh. He seems to get it." However, I'll jump in it anyway. I agree that if she's not aware that she's peeing, it's going to be hard. I thought Lucas was not emotionally ready (perhaps that was me), but I knew he was physiologically ready because he'd started being aware that he needed to go and was going. He'd stop playing, stand very still, then say "I'm tee teeing." His diaper was also staying dry for 2 hours or more at a time so I knew he had the ability to hold it and release when he was ready. Both of those things happened right at the same time and very suddenly. We ONLY went ahead with the PT because DH was pushing it and I wanted to prove that Lucas wasn't ready. I told him he had one weekend and if no progress was made, we were giving up for a month at least. I also told him if Lucas started getting upset, it was a no go.

I totally ditto Reena on the big girl undies. She gave me that same piece of advice, so we skipped Pull Ups at home all together (except for nap/night). I think that peeing in regular undies helped Lucas get the concept much more quickly. It's messy, uncomfortable, cold and an ordeal. Peeing in Pull Ups- just like peeing in diaper. Plus, when he did have an accident, we told him, "No. Don't pee in your big boy underwear. Thomas doesn't want pee on him." No anger, no punishment, but no "Oh, that's ok," either. We used Pull Ups out and about for the first week, then decided to do away with that as well since I really didn't want to undo our progress.

Anywho. Sounds like it might be less frustrating for both of you to wait a month and try again.

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Registered: 03-20-2009
In reply to: joiseygrrrl
Fri, 03-27-2009 - 4:30pm

Thanks all, thats what I was hoping you would say- to wait. And Reena, there is absolutely no punishment involved with what I am doing as we discussed previously. I just say "lets try again" but great idea to say "Audrey try again" or like what you said to do using only her name. I didnt think of that one!

And she says "no potty" and screams but then once she is on there, we talk and she reads a book or whatever and she is fine. Its not like she is sitting on there, screaming crying and I am forcing her to do this every 30 minutes. LOL Sorry if thats what it sounded like! After I typed the first post here, she was actually in the bathroom and had her bear on the potty and was saying "now bear, you use potty 'cause you big girl" LOL! (Thats exactly what I say to her) So I think thats like the biggest step we have had yet!!

I am going to wait a bit. I really dont think she knows when she is going and I will do the undies. I bought them and tried that but she pooped in them within 5 minutes so I gave up. I will try again in May.

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In reply to: joiseygrrrl
Fri, 03-27-2009 - 4:59pm

I didn't mean to imply that you were using punishment-- it didn't sound that way.

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In reply to: joiseygrrrl
Fri, 03-27-2009 - 5:14pm
Kristen- you got some great advice, as always, from the girls and I am late to the party. I am just going to chime in anyway. It seems to me that Audrey isn't ready yet. Give it a month or so. In the meantime, keep the potty chair out and the videos rolling. ITA about the panties thing too. Pullups do not work here. The kid will pee in them at night, even before bed because even though we say they are "princess panties" she knows better and doesn't care.


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Registered: 11-29-2005
In reply to: joiseygrrrl
Fri, 03-27-2009 - 6:09pm
I'm late too. I ditto what Reena said. She's not ready yet, and that's OK. I recommend naked bottoms until she gets the hang of it. A pullup still feels like a diaper kwim


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Registered: 07-06-2007
In reply to: joiseygrrrl
Fri, 03-27-2009 - 7:56pm

Hey,
Have you read "Making the Terrible Twos Terrific"? It was a good read. He had a good view on toilet training. Just stand back and let her figure it out. He made it available but didn't push it. It gave me a new perspective on it...

GL. Potty training sucks. I mean...it is a wonderful bonding experience with your child. lol

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In reply to: joiseygrrrl
Fri, 03-27-2009 - 11:28pm
Rut ro, in that other thread what I meant was that I agree that maybe we should train the kids earlier (like Tati did). Was agreeing with the timing, not really anything else ;-))

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In reply to: joiseygrrrl
Fri, 03-27-2009 - 11:33pm
The naked bottoms traumatized us all. There was a flood of pee everywhere!!!!!!!! LOL

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