Self-feeding?

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Registered: 02-24-2005
Self-feeding?
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Wed, 04-22-2009 - 8:57am

So I was just reading Sam's post about finger foods and had some questions of my own regarding self-feeding?


When do we start this?

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Registered: 05-17-2004
In reply to: nahla_1204
Wed, 04-22-2009 - 10:27am

Hey Kim,

FWIW, Nicholas is just now feeding himself most meals. While I allowed him to self feed simple stuff, I fed him most of his meals up until the last few months.

Little by little, he started showing more interest in self feeding and I allowed him to take the lead on how much self feeding he was ready or willing to do.

Now, at 2yo, he sits at his table with his spoon and fork and eats his meals. I have not had a lot of frustration or messy clean ups doing it this way. Did I do it the "right" way? I don't know, but it worked for us. IMHO, I wouldn't push the boys to self feed. If they're interested, great. If not, don't feel bad if you continue to feed them to ensure they're getting the nutrients and not Nahla.









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Registered: 10-13-2004
In reply to: nahla_1204
Wed, 04-22-2009 - 11:01am

I think Aaron started self feeding around 9 or 10mo. He was always pretty independent about food, and I think it's because



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Registered: 11-29-2005
In reply to: nahla_1204
Wed, 04-22-2009 - 11:58am

Elliot (10mo) prefers to feed himself. Probably he's dissatisfied with the crummy service around here LOL, so he took measures into his own hands. You're right though Kim, if you give them a bowl of dinner, they will toss it around and your dog will get fat. I spoon very small amounts on Elliot's tray. If there is only a small amount he will be less tempted to let it fly. I always get burned when I put too much on that tray. I spoon some bites in between his self-feed.

I have some ideas about food, and some of it is no doubt weird. One of my ideas is that little ones should be free to mess around and feed self. I know its a MESSY venture but I believe it gives them a great sense of satisfaction to do things for themselves. I also have ideas about non-foods like puffs. I sort of think food should look like food. My belief is puffs (and straw sippies) conditions kids to make poor choices and over eat. I know you didn't ask for my opinion on that, and I am capable of shutting up. I fail in many many other arenas, lest I sound like an unbearable perfect mom.


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Registered: 10-13-2004
In reply to: nahla_1204
Wed, 04-22-2009 - 3:08pm

Kim, something else occurred to me, but I was in a rush on my last post and forgot to add it.


I don't know if anyone else's ped is this way, but ours considers self-feeding an important issue in the areas of motor skill and social development.


At Aaron's 9m well-baby visit, she wanted to know if he had started self-feeding. She said that by the time they can get to a sitting position by themselves, they're ready to start trying to feed themselves. (Pincer grasp is developed, etc.)



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Registered: 02-24-2005
In reply to: nahla_1204
Wed, 04-22-2009 - 3:34pm

I dont have a problem letting them self-feed.

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Registered: 04-06-2007
In reply to: nahla_1204
Wed, 04-22-2009 - 8:30pm

Hey Kim!

Self feeding is an interesting topic around here lately. Sara has been doing finer food by herself since about 9 months or so. I would put one piece of whatever on her tray and go from there. Now I will still put pieces of finger food but we are moving on to less finger like foods (mac and cheese, shepards pie) and it is hit or miss. Her new thing is not LETTING me feed her - we used to do Sara's turn and then Mommy's turn just so I knew some got in - but now she screams or pushes it away if I try to feed her! So for now I am limiting those types of meals for when I have time for her to take an hour to eat and make a huge mess (which means dinner). She gets finger foods for breakfast, lunch and snacks to limit the time and mess. As for GETTING him to self feed - I don't think you can force it - I think you have to keep offering him the option by putting a piece of food on his tray while you are also feeding him. Keep the options open and eventually he will pick it up. Does he pick up other things like toys? Does touching the food seem to gross him out or he just doesn't want it? I guess if he CAN do it but chooses not to then I wouldn't worry at all - if he seems to not be able to I would work on that pincher grasp with him and then see how it goes!

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Registered: 02-24-2005
In reply to: nahla_1204
Thu, 04-23-2009 - 10:55am

Caren-


Landon loves to eat and is not picky at all.

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