Why 3a.m. ?!

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Registered: 08-22-2007
Why 3a.m. ?!
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Fri, 03-20-2009 - 11:12am

My ds who is 9 months old has decided that 3am is a perfect time to wake for the day.

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Registered: 02-19-2008
In reply to: boni2007
Fri, 03-20-2009 - 9:04pm

Boni,
I started CIO out last night my 5 month old. I know this is different than a 9 month old, but there is a similarity. We put her down last night and she cried for 2.5 hours, and we never went in to check on her. it was HARD. When she woke at 3:45am, I knew it was to eat, so I fed her and put her right back down - it was great. But, then she woke up at 5am. I knew she was not hungry, she just wanted attention. So, we let her cry. She only cried for 30 mins. Then went back down until 6:30 and then fussed a little off and on until 7am. At 7am, we went in and got her.

I guess the similarity here is her 5am waking. We just ignored it. We kept the monitor on, and knew that her cry was an attention cry - not a hungry cry. I know it is really hard, but if you can just let him CIO, it has seemed to work.

Tonight, we put Margaux down at 7, she cried for 30 mins and has not made a sound since. We will see later, how long that lasts, but the beginning has gone well.

Good luck - stay strong!!
Kelly

Margaux - born on October 8, 2008 weighing in at 6lbs. & 19in long


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Margaux - born on October 8, 2008 weighing in at 6lbs. & 19in long

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In reply to: boni2007
Sun, 03-22-2009 - 7:47pm

Just like Caren I'm not a big fan of CIO. With my first I did it at about 8.5 months, but if it hadn't gone as smoothly as it did (18 mins off and on first night, 15 mins 2nd night, 2-3 mins 3rd night) I would never been able to stick with it. I could never let them cry for hours. I am also a fan of schedules and exercise. My second, Emma, is 8.5 months and has just taken off crawling this past week. I try to keep her on the floor most of the time. She is now taking 2 loooong naps every day (2-2.5 hours), plus sleeps all night from about 7 pm to 6 am. Exercise is great!!! :)
I know when they are sick and their schedules get out of whack it takes a while to get back on track. Try to keep your schedule and get him moving as much as possible to make him tired. He might be over tired also because of the later bedtime and that can make them wake up early too. Good luck!




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Registered: 06-18-2004
In reply to: boni2007
Tue, 03-24-2009 - 1:45am

Boni -


When we had 3am wake up calls with babies (esp. DD) who wanted to play and laugh and smile - it was usually a sign of being overly tired. I think that is what has happened in your house.


I'd really focus on naptime and getting to bed earlier. Can you give us some ideas about your baby's regular naptime schedule during the day and maybe we can give you some ideas?


I also found that when my babies dropped the 3rd nap around 9 or 10 months, I should have moved bedtime earlier. But since they weren't getting that extra nap in and they were going to bed at the same time, it led to them being overly tired and that led to lots of night wakings. It wasn't fun! We finally figured out what went wrong and resorted to CIO only at naptime when our twins were a year old. Once my babies were napping well during the day, they started sleeping better at nightime.

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Registered: 08-22-2007
In reply to: boni2007
Tue, 03-24-2009 - 10:08am

Hi, Riley is up in the morning btwn 7:30 and 8.

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Registered: 06-18-2004
In reply to: boni2007
Tue, 03-24-2009 - 12:39pm

Boni -


I assume that you haven't read the Healthy Sleep Habit, Happy Child book by Weisslbuth. There are several ideas from that book that I think relate to your situation.


Based on my own experiences and reading (i.e. studying!) HSHHC, I think your baby needs more daytime sleep. If you can get more naptime in during the day, then he'll do better at nighttime.


One of the big ideas is to make sure to protect the afternoon nap - and your baby isn't consistently getting that. My suggestion is to move the morning nap earlier so you can also move the afternoon nap earlier. Weissbluth talks about waking up babies from morning naps early if necessary to be able to get them to take an afternoon nap. Weissbluth also