Annoyed...need to vent
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|Mon, 08-29-2011 - 4:17pm|
Sorry in advance for this rant...I just need to vent a few things and have nowhere else to go!
First off, I am really getting annoyed with some of the things people say to other people struggling with IF...for awhile there, it didn't bother me because I just figured people didn't understand. But, our very good friends have finally gotten their daughter home from Ethiopia after a 2 year process to adopt her. They chose to adopt before starting to try and conceive a biological child. We were telling them about our m/c in May and that we plan to try again in Nov. and he says, "Why don't you 'just' adopt?!" Urgh....this after they sent out an article listing things never to say to adoptive parents (one being don't question their decision to adopt...i.e. everyone has a right to follow their own path to creating their family, another being don't ever say 'just adopt').
Secondly, my current clinic has 3 patients chronicling their journeys on a public forum that is popular in my city. This is how I heard of this clinic, through this forum. The only reason we switched was because of $. This clinic is quite a bit less $ than my previous one (the one that we got PG with DD at). I have been following all 3 patients of course, and all of them say that they get calls from their doctors (never once heard from mine) and the lastest just posted that her Dr. pesonally called her the day of her first Beta to tell her she was PG. I didn't hear a word from my Dr. after my first Beta....they told us they won't call until after the 2nd Beta. At that point, it was the nurse that called me at 6 pm to tell me it looked like a chemical. When I finally met with my Dr. 3 weeks later, he didn't even remember I had gotten PG at all...he had to look at my chart to see that "oh, yes, you were pregnant. It looks like a chemical." Duh, I know. I'm sooooo frustrated with them. I know they are treating these 3 patients differently because they are publically writing about them. I want to go back to my old clinic so badly, but DH wants to try with this one again just because of cost issues. I don't know what to do...my old Dr. emailed/called me personally throughout