Help!

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Registered: 10-06-2008
Help!
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Fri, 03-30-2012 - 1:44pm

:smileyfrustrated:I am at a loss! Who here has had a baby while having a toddler??? *I know I am no the 1st nor will I be the last and that this is not something uncommon* but geeezzz! DD #1 has always been so good. she turned 2 in January (2 days after DD#2 was born) so I can't tell if its terrible 2's or jealousy or both. She slaps the baby:( I am constantly having to defend her. DD#1 LOVES baby but when I tell her not to tuch baby's head/face she slaps her! The temper tantrums are in full swing now. I try ignoring them but sometimes that doesn't work. I give her special time during the day/night w/out baby so she knows I still love her but she is killing me......lol! Please tell me this is just a stage and it will pass! Please tell me she will stop hitting her baby sister! btw.....like I said she dose love her...hugs and kisses MOST of the time. She is also great at sharing w/ her. its so cute when she says stuff like "awwwwww baby" or "I U baby"......its just the crazy moments that are so tuff!

 

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Registered: 01-30-2010
In reply to: havinfaith
Sat, 03-31-2012 - 9:08am
Hang in there, it sounds like just pure jealousy. It's hard for a 2 year old to keep her emotions and actions in check all the time. Heck, that's even hard for an adult to do - lol. My two oldest girls were 20 months apart and I do remember (eventhough it was a long time ago) that my oldest dd would act out, pull on babies arms and legs, pinch her cheek really hard until baby cried, pull her ears, etc. Your older dd is just trying to figure her 'new place' in the family.

You're doing the right things by giving her special time alone. Also, maybe try having her bring the baby's diapers, clothes, toys, etc. This will make her feel like a 'Big girl'. Just keep telling her she's a GREAT big sister.

G/L
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Registered: 05-16-2009
In reply to: havinfaith
Mon, 04-02-2012 - 12:39pm
ME!!!
So, you know I have the 20 month old twins and the 3 month old twins. One of my older twins is great with the babies, very gentle and loving. The other one will also "slap" the babies if I don't keep my eye on him every second. I'm not sure if it's agression or if he just isn't very gentle. I wouldn't worry too much, I do think it's INCREDIBLY annoying but will pass thankfully. I have also noticed an uptick in the tantrums. It sounds like you are doing everything right, I hope she settles down soon. *hugs* It is the best and worse all rolled into one!
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Registered: 10-06-2008
In reply to: havinfaith
Mon, 04-02-2012 - 1:49pm

Thanks ladies! Glad to know that I am not alone. Some days are great and others not so much. I find the busier we stay the better!:smileywink:

 

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Registered: 08-27-2008
In reply to: havinfaith
Mon, 04-02-2012 - 3:57pm
Sorry I don't have any advice since I only have one...but it sounds normal to me. I can totally understand your anxiety about it though {{{HUGS}}} Hopefully it is a stage that passes very, very soon!

Hugs to you and both your precious babes =)
Caryn
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Registered: 10-06-2008
In reply to: havinfaith
Tue, 04-03-2012 - 4:30pm

thanks caryn!:smileyhappy: