QOTW - 2/7 - The unexpected

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QOTW - 2/7 - The unexpected
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Tue, 02-07-2012 - 12:08pm
Sorry for the delay...Monday was a true Monday yesterday and I didn't have a chance to post this. What has been the most unexpected (good or not so good) part of motherhood for you?
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Wed, 02-08-2012 - 1:15pm
probably the best unexpected thing ( and this will sound soo cliche but its true) is just how much you love these little people. others tell you... you think you understand and you know how much you want them but then your whole brain is obsessed about how much you care about them its kind of crazy. the worst unexpected thing for me was BFing... and i am still a huge supporter of it but it was hard and i mean HARD for me. all good things come with work i suppose but it was a never ending battle. I hope if i get a next time it will go a little better :)
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Thu, 02-09-2012 - 2:54pm

I agree with sorcet..

----"Never give up on something that you can't stop thinking about every second of every day."----

Chris 

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Thu, 02-09-2012 - 7:02pm
Sounds like our lists are very similar! Here's mine...

Some of my good unexpected:
- Agree with PP's - the love is unexplained and so, so fulfilling
- The sense of family is amazing - sharing this little amazing being with your DH makes you so strong
- I am finding I'm way more patient than I expected to be
- They just get cuter every, single day and every stage is more amazing than the last

Some of the so-so unexpected:
- I didn't realize how much responsibility falls on mama bear...my DH is fab but biology kind of makes a lot of things mama's work.
- I didn't realize how hard breast feeding would be at the beginning. But now we're still going at 20 months so it certainly got easier =) Sorcet, I'm hoping the 2nd time around happens for both of us and is MUCH easier.
- Getting together with friends is so hard now. Planning between the naps, sicknesses, etc. is tough and I feel a little out of touch with my girls.
- I had no idea how emotionally difficult it would be to go back to work. Now that I'm back in the swing I'm happy to be a working mom but I think countries who offer a year maternity leave rock...wish the US were one!
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Fri, 02-10-2012 - 10:09am

caryn - a year leave would be awesome.

----"Never give up on something that you can't stop thinking about every second of every day."----

Chris 

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Fri, 02-10-2012 - 11:58am
I hear ya Chris. Kylie is 20 months and we have left her with a sitter once for 2.5 hours =) We use to go out every single weekend and now it's just not a priority. My friends and I recently decided to set up a monthly brunch though so we can see each other instead of just calling/emailing. That seems to be the time all our toddlers/babies are awake and we can get together...so apparently brunch is the new "going out for drinks" *LOL*

Caryn