Those who did IVF with a toddler

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Registered: 04-29-2008
Those who did IVF with a toddler
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Tue, 05-03-2011 - 10:44am

Yesterday at my consult for IVF #2, they told me that during stiming and after ER/ET until my beta, that I really need to avoid lifting, turning, twisting. Including lifting my 13 month old....This would be about 4 weeks total! I am really concerned about this....I stay home with her, so I'm the only one here the majority of the day that can lift her in and out of her crib for naps and also lift her if she falls down, into her highchair/carseat, etc. She is walking now, so that helps but.....

How strict do I need to be about this? I know the concerns are that the ovaries could turn and twist (bad), but how likely is this to happen if I lift my 19 lb. daughter?

Also, how did you handle the bedrest with your toddler? I am trying to find some help, but DH can't take off too many days of work and my mom works too. Hoping it falls on a weekend, so one of them can help. But trying to get my MIL to come to help too.

Thanks!

 

&nb
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Registered: 08-27-2008
Tue, 05-03-2011 - 11:48am

I don't have any answers here since I haven't walked that path yet.

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Registered: 04-29-2008
Tue, 05-03-2011 - 12:17pm
Hi! I am happy with them....I met Dr. S yesterday and loved him. I probably won't even see Dr. B much. Everyone else has been great. I am excited and know I'm in good hands. They are pretty much following the same protocol from before, so that's nice too.

We are saving about $8,000 total by switching to them. Dr. B knocked off $2,000 since this is our second cycle and he learned so much from our first....so that was really nice. And my insurance has covered some of the prelim. stuff which wasn't the case before. So all in all, it was a great decision and the $ is much less stressful this time. Thanks for the recommendation!

 

&nb
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Registered: 10-06-2008
Tue, 05-03-2011 - 2:39pm

I am right there with you! I worried about the same stuff. During my last IVF I had no choice but to lift DD as I stay home with her as well. If it makes you feel better just know that when I was going through it my DD was 25lbs and NOT walking yet! It would have been impossible for me not to lift her. My clinic recommends that I do no lifting over 10lbs after et for 4 days....that didn't happen either.

 

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Registered: 06-11-2007
Wed, 05-04-2011 - 3:03pm

OK, so I am going to tell you my experience first, which will scare you (disclaimer) but then I am going to tell you hopefully what others will chime in and tell you.

First, I DID have an ovarian torsion during my 1st trimester with Madeline. 12 1/2 weeks. Most horrific pain ever, next to labor. Ovary swelled 3 times its normal size and twisted around itself one morning, and happened over the course of an hour. I didn't do anything to cause it--no exercise, nothing. Just started feeling some small throbbing, felt weird, after about an hour called the nurse, and while I was one the phone, literally fell onto the stairs in pain, and then had to go to the doctor and hospital. They did surgery, but by they it had untwisted by itself. Madeline was obviously OK, but it was scary. And OMG it was painful. But, I did everything they said to do, and did nothing strenous and it still happened. So, I don't buy that you can avoid it. I think it is going to happen, it will happen.

That being said, here's my opinion: I have seen person after person on this board (and IRL) get PG and have multiple children and be OK. Many are SAHM and have to take care of their toddlers. They are OK and manage. I am sure your doctors have to tell you to take it easy (and I am sure this isn't the time to take up weightlifting), and certainly it probably isn't the time to be throwing your daughter into the air and doing airplaine with her for 10 hours a day. But, daily activities are going to happen, and I think that your body is stronger than we give it credit for. It really is.

I often am amazed at what the non-IVF'ers do when they are PG because they do not have the fears that we do. We are soooo careful. I have friends that were running their normal 5 miles per day in their 1st trimesters or teaching aerobics classes (seriously). So, while those would not be my choices (who would want to anyway), I personally would just do what you are doing, and just make sure you are watching what you are doing, and make your DH do what he can when he is home.

I think our doctors just tell us these things to make us crazy anyway :-) GL in your upcoming cycle. I hopefully will be right there behind you soon!

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Registered: 08-27-2008
Wed, 05-04-2011 - 3:05pm

So happy you have had a good experience with them!