Going on 43 and shocked with baby #6

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Registered: 04-19-2012
Going on 43 and shocked with baby #6
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Thu, 04-19-2012 - 10:56am

Hello,

I just found this forum as I was looking for some place to share some feelings and get some support.

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Sun, 04-22-2012 - 9:14am

Welcome and best of luck as you embark on this journey. We found ourselves unexpectedly pregnant with #4, having a 19yo, a 15yo, and an 11yo, and thinking we were finished having babies as well. Very shocking, but we were thrilled pretty much from the beginning. I understand that not everyone gets there that quickly, if at all.I think we all just get through these life suprises as best we can. That's all anyone can do.

It's an adventure, for sure!


Brie
Mom to Libby/17, William/12, and Jacob/8
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Sat, 04-21-2012 - 10:47pm
We have 2 girls and 4 boys. Actually, Safeway stopped selling the usual contraceptive so I wound up with some new and apparently ineffective stuff. TMI I guess. We weren't trying but I have been very sad about my 6th growing up and after the first few nauseating moments of :Oh Gosh, what have we done?" I really got excited about the idea. Just excited enough to be really sad when it was all for naught. I would try for number 7.....but I don't think even my husband would be on board for that one. My 6th is 5 years younger then the twins and I did see the positives in him having a little friend. I don't know what I am going to do. Maybe I'll feel more reasonable in a week or two. Or maybe that little princess is just meant to be here and it will all happen. (The princess named Frank that is - bet it would be a 5th boy :)......) Good luck with your pregnancy and all that it entails.

BEEBES
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Sat, 04-21-2012 - 7:06pm

Well, I feel better hearing of others in this situation.

Cowboys_girl: I know you weren't trying to make me or anyone feel bad.

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Sat, 04-21-2012 - 4:56pm
I thought I had responded to your post here but maybe it was the other one... Dunno...preggo brain I guess. Just jumping in to say congrats on your surprise baby #6! Like you've said..you weren't really not trying and sometimes things happen when we never expect them..I'm sure it will be great. It helps to have a place where you can come to and share with other pregnant mums that are going through it with you. Most of us here were surprised by the news..some had a hard time at first. warm hugs

Wendy

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Sat, 04-21-2012 - 12:43am
Oh, and by the way - I shipped every baby thing I owned back East to my sisters via AMTRAK before we had our sixth. They got the mother lode as my 4th pregnancy was a set of twin boys. We thought we were done after the twins - then my husband decided he missed our little girl (my oldest turned 15). We laughed and laughed when there was a little doodle on our ultrasound. 4 boys in a row!
Sending all the baby stuff away is probably the best way to ensure getting pregnant :) I have to admit, it's been fun getting new stuff. I never really chose any of my original things because we had been given so many hand-me-downs/gifts. I've made due with so much less too and haven't felt deprived. I'm a bit smarter now that I am "old" and I know I don't need every bouncy contraption in the store. It's almost freeing. I spent money on the car seat, but I think every baby should get a new one anyway. They get so gross, and they come out with new safety features all the time..... I didn't spend money on a real stroller - got the Snap and Go instead. He is still in it at a year. Love it. I finally paid 19$ for an umbrolla stroller last week. I didn't get a real high chair. Wound up with one of those small ones that attach to a regular chair. I love it. It's so much nicer then those huge highchairs and we can take it with us easily. Anyway after 5 kids - getting some new loot for the sixth is so much better than crawling through the attic trying to find the old stuff. I hate that.

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Fri, 04-20-2012 - 11:17pm

To be honest with you - I was trying to figure out how to tell my MIL that I was pregnant with #7 and was as worried as you were. I was also worried about telling my OB since I had a

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Fri, 04-20-2012 - 5:02pm

>>cowboys_grl: I wish you luck.

Kiki (hit my magic age of 45 and no longer TTC),but mom to a beautiful teen DD & 2 angels in heaven & married to my best friend

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Fri, 04-20-2012 - 4:18pm

Ha! All things I forgot to mention you said as well. The car...yes bigger one is definately needed now. I *think* we have that worked out or will by the fall. But the house...there is 5 of us in a 3 bedroom 1,200 square foot house.Our house is now worth less than we owe so

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Fri, 04-20-2012 - 3:54pm

cowboys_grl: I wish you luck.

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Thu, 04-19-2012 - 4:37pm

I can totally relate to your feelings. I am 43-will be 44 when this baby is born. I am currently 16 weeks pregnant and I can say just within the past couple of weeks have I gotten over the initial feelings...I don't even know what to call them-not sad..but I just did NOT want this baby.

I had just given all my baby stuff away. Started planning trips and things to fix up around the house. I don't know how we can afford another in daycare. I just was not happy.

But the last couple of weeks I really have gotten over that. I wouldn't say I'm "excited". But I definately am starting to look forward to meeting this little one I guess.

We never know what God has planned for us. We are just here to go along with it and try to accept it. I hope that you too start to feel better about your pregnancy.

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