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|Tue, 12-07-2010 - 12:59pm|
Just dropping by to lend some moral support to those of you who've learned you were pregnant after 40, as I did a year ago. My life was a mess then. Not only was I 42 and pregnant, I had never had children before, was single, and the paternity of my little peanut wasn't certain (I had just parted ways with my BF and was with one other person a few days later). Like many other woman after 40, I had been lax about birth control and assumed it wouln't be so easy to get pregnant. I wouldn't recommend others do things as I did up to the point (the unsafe sex and all), but I don't for one second regret the healthy beautiful baby boy I'm now holding who's completely changed my life.
I heard everything you're likely now hearing from all the naysayers about the risks of pregnancy after 40, the higher chances of the baby having a chromosomal abnomality, etc, but I knew I wanted this baby and would carry him as long as I possibly could. Yes, our risks are higher, but not as dire as they're sometimes made out to be-- I wonder how many woman after 40 who find themselves pregnant automatically terminate because they believe it's highly unlikely the baby will be healthy. The truth it, there's a greater likelyhood of having a healthy baby than not even past age 45. Again, not to say the risks aren't higher (particularly for miscarriage).
I actually wound up having a fairly routine pregnancy, though he was delivered by c-section because he turned sideways and moved high up in my uterus in the last two weeks of my pregnancy. He's chiming on right now to say he's very glad I decided to change my life and bring him into the world. And the feeling is more than mutual. I'm attaching a recent pic of my pride and joy. I wish you all the best of luck in your journey to new mommyhood, and happy holidays!