Surprise at 45

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Registered: 08-03-2011
Surprise at 45
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Thu, 08-04-2011 - 8:15am
Well, after spending 6 weeks in Sweden with my family experiencing what I thought was pre menopausal issues. Irregular periods, fatigue, incredible bloating.... Well, went to my OB upon my return.... What do u know....almost 12 weeks pregnant. I will be 46 in October. I nearly passed out when I saw the ultrasound and there she was...arms, hands etc.... Yeah...bloated... Both ,y children were born through some kind of fertility help and my son was IVF... I started late and had number 1 at 40, number 2 at 43 and now this....already through my first trimester and I didn't even know it. I am still in shock... We were done with two, very blessed both are healthy despite my already then aging eggs. Abortion is not an option, as all I think is how wonderful our two other are... My husband is super supportive and excited. That helps... Just had a tummy tuck and a breast lift in the spring....I cannot believe this is happening but I look pregnant and have to face reality. For all those that worry about chromosomal issues... So do I, despite two healthy kids post 40.... I'll do another amnio so I know. Don't know what I will do if I learn about any issues, but we will more than likely proceed. Once u see them and hear them, abortion is no longer an option. I am scared. Both previous pregnancies were super easy and joyful. But! I was done. Mentally, can I do it? Plus, here is the kicker... I feel silly being pregnant at this age... Don't know why that is even a consideration, yet it is....I need to get over it.....I'll be looking for posts from other folks in my position.

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Registered: 11-13-2008
Thu, 08-04-2011 - 10:43am
Welcome to the board and congratulations on your pregnancy! Feel free to jump right and get support, we have lots of members that are having the same fears and concerns as you are. I know this was a shock, and hope that everything will work out fine for you.

iVillage Member
Registered: 08-05-2011
Fri, 08-05-2011 - 3:17pm

What an encouragement you are!

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Registered: 08-09-2011
Tue, 08-09-2011 - 5:29pm
Thanks for admitting feeling silly. I, too, feel silly being pregnant with my 4th child at 43. All of my friends were done being pregnant in their 30s and have kids in middle school. I have 11, 9, 2 and now another baby coming. Quite frankly, I'm scared to death of whether I can really handle 4!
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Registered: 08-05-2011
Wed, 08-10-2011 - 2:33pm

Please check out this website for encouragement...http://www.inseasonmom.org/

iVillage Member
Registered: 08-21-2011
Sun, 08-21-2011 - 11:01am
Congrats! You are not alone!
iVillage Member
Registered: 09-04-2011
Sun, 09-04-2011 - 10:38pm

I can relate to feeling silly. I to am 45 and surprised by a very unplanned pregnancy! We had our 2nd at 40 after

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Registered: 09-12-2011
Mon, 09-12-2011 - 10:05am

Congrats! I understand completely your surprise and concerns. I am 46 years old and 20 weeks pregnant. I will be 47 when the baby is born.

iVillage Member
Registered: 09-13-2011
Tue, 09-13-2011 - 7:14pm

I have to tell you I was relieved to read your post.

iVillage Member
Registered: 09-19-2011
Mon, 09-19-2011 - 10:48pm

Congradulations! I am 48 years old and have a three year old son who is perfect and healthy.

iVillage Member
Registered: 09-24-2011
Sat, 09-24-2011 - 9:55pm

Hi I just found out to that I am pregnant @ 45.

babygirl45

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