Feeling a bit scared

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Registered: 10-27-2011
Feeling a bit scared
Thu, 08-09-2012 - 12:29pm

I am going into O.B today to get instruction on how to give myself the heparin shots twice a day today at 3pm. I feel very scared and I wish this feeling of anxiety was not there. I have so many questions to ask doc like what happens if I do miscarry again? Because I am on blood thinners am I going to bleed to death? Oh I don't know! Why can't this be easy for all of us? Why do we all have to loose our babies and then have issues when we get pregnant again. I don't understand it! I almost feel as if the nurses and staff at the my O.B office are getting upset with me because I call all the time with fear and anxiety and questions. I just need them to understand and be patient with me ..but I am not sure I would be patient with me right now either. I think I cried so much yesterday my eyes are going to be permanently swollen! Thank you for listening.

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Registered: 06-02-2012
Thu, 08-09-2012 - 12:40pm
Awww hugs! I'm soo sorry your feeling like this. It is so scary when things come up. I feel like most pregnant woman hear something that's not completely "normal" through their pregnancies, its just for us those things present such higher risks in our minds because of our losses. My friend from work has been on those shots her whole pregnancy and last week had her last one, she's doing great. I'm praying for you and hopefully you can feel better soon once you know exactly what's going on and you get more comfortable with the shots. I also feel like my obgyn got frustrated with me with my last pregnancy I pretty much called everyday. With this one I'm just waiting for my ultrasound and not calling at all, I don't want to stress myself more because sometimes the nurses will do that. They see so many woman everyday everythings normal to them so sometimes I don't think they understand that for us its so scary.
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Registered: 10-05-2006
Thu, 08-09-2012 - 1:25pm

I know it is scary when things happen that are not 100% the norm. What does that mean anyway? I think a lot of us have different fears depending on our situation. You are right, it doesn't help when we already have dealt with a loss.

I wouldn't care if the staff is getting upset about all your questions. That is their JOB to take care of you and answer your questions. You could always mention it to your OB that you are getting negative vibes from his/her staff. The most important thing is that your questions are answered.

Let us know how your appt goes.

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Registered: 10-20-2008
Thu, 08-09-2012 - 4:21pm
I'm sorry. :smileysad: I think I would be scared giving myself shots like that, too. Do not be afraid to call them if you have questions, though. They get paid a lot of money to make themselves available to their patients and they should not make you feel bad. Hope you feel more comfortable with things after your appt.

Mom to DS, July 2009
Expecting our little girl after three m/c - EDD 11/29/12