Good Appt/My concerns

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Registered: 10-19-2011
Good Appt/My concerns
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Sat, 08-04-2012 - 11:09pm

Been a little nervous to post this, not sure why. Maybe I felt like I would be jinxing it but our appt last week went great. We heard the heartbeat and it was wonderful. 155 bpm.

I'm going to be 12 weeks monday. I didn't realize before but know now that 12 week ultrasounds have kind of gone out of the normal care.Now I am terrified to tell my DD (4). Honestly I feel like at this point I could tell anyone else and if something happened yes it would suck so bad to have to retell them (family and close friends, wouldnt feel comfortable doing like a fb announcement or anything) but I think I could handle it. I'm just so scared of telling my daughter, then something happen or our 18 week ultrasound go badly and then having to take it back from her. Shes so sensitive and shes just not old enough to understand that these things can happen.

 

We always wanted to tell her first before anyone else but now I just don't know what to do. I feel like all my plans are crushed and I'm in limbo all over again.

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Registered: 01-22-2010
Sun, 08-05-2012 - 3:07am

Yey for a great appt! 12 weeks is a great place to be!

Sorry I'm not familiar with your history, have you had any losses after 12 weeks?

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Registered: 10-19-2011
Sun, 08-05-2012 - 6:43am

No my loss was early but we have had friends who have had anatomy scans and for various reasons found out their babies didn't or wouldn't make it.

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Registered: 01-22-2010
Sun, 08-05-2012 - 7:00am

It's awful hearin peoples stories of gettin news like that but you need to focus on your story. It's so easy to focus on what might happen and forget how small the chances of it happenin are.

Do you have doppler? That might give you some extra confidence and allow you to enjoy tellin people, especially your daughter

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Registered: 10-05-2006
Sun, 08-05-2012 - 1:34pm

I am glad you had a good appointment. It sounds like you are not having an NT scan because if you did, you would get an ultrasound now. I think mine was like 12 weeks if I remember correctly. I think getting the Doppler is good for a peace of mind. When I went in for my anatomy scan the tech wouldn't let my mom and sister in until she saw the baby with a heartbeat. That would have freaked me out but before the appointment, I listened to my LO on Doppler. I knew my LO was alive in there.

It sounds like everything is going really well for you which is awesome. You are almost in the second trimester which is wonderful. I know the stress doesn't completely go away, but it is a big milestone to cross.

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Sun, 08-05-2012 - 3:05pm
Yes I have a doppler that my wonderful friend sent me and it has been great today (other than the little stinker runs from it now lol) I think I'm just most nervous because one of the friends I was talking about is actually a cousin of mine by marriage. She carried her son to term even though they knew he was missing critial parts of his brain and his heart and wouldn't make it but maybe a few days on support. I know thats extremely rare but like I said, I'm just worried about upsetting my daughter more than anything.

I thought about it and talked to DH about how we have seen so much in the NICU (DD was a 31 weeker and there for 2 months) that we know that anything can happen even if the ultrasound goes well and we can't keep it a secret till the baby is born or anything. I still feel like I just need another week or something. Always thought I would be so excited to tell her :/
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Mon, 08-06-2012 - 10:48am

Glad the appointment went well and taht the doppler is giving you some peace of mind!  I know it's scarey to tell her, I still feel anxious that Hannah knows!  But like you said, it's nothing something that can be hidden forever.  Hannah was Mal's age when she was diagnosed with cancer so I understand the fear of having her loose that innocence.  First off, she won't!  Your little one is stick running away from the doppler so he/she is active and doing well!  Also, it's amazing what kids forget and move past if there ever were a bad situation. Whenever you decide to tell her it will be the right time.  







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