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|Sat, 02-02-2013 - 8:55pm|
This morning I found out that my fiance has no intentions on cutting the baby's umbilical cord, which completely shocked me. I cant help but to be totally upset and cry about it. First he didnt want to watch the birth and he said he felt much more comfortable being up at my head helping me through, which was fine with me. Would I rather him want to be in the action? of course. but i completely understand if he does not feel up to it. Last thing I want is for him to pass out during delivery. That I could get over, but this... I cant seem to shake. He says the thought of cutting it makes him queezy. My initial reaction was pretty much a what is wrong with you, which I apologized for, that was un called for. But to not want to be apart of the birthing experience at all? its killing me. I brought this up to him and he said he is going to be apart of it and he wants to help me through and be the first one to hold the baby, but that no one should make him feel bad about not choosing to cut the cord. I agree, and I dont want to make him feel bad about his decisions, but it really is hurting me. I dont know how to just accept his decision. I'm hurt for our bonding experience as a couple, as well as for christopher's bonding experience with his dad. I wish he would just try to muscle through it, its only a one time chance. :(... the whole thing is just upsetting me. Anyway, thanks for listening to my rant!