Where the bleep is my milk?!

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Where the bleep is my milk?!
Fri, 11-26-2010 - 11:41pm
I'm trying so hard! This little boy is hungry, taking 3-4 oz of formula at a feeding, not spitting up a drop! he's just too frustrated with my lack of milk! I've been pumping and pumping, sat for two hours with an lc (of course all went well while there, its easy when someone else is positioning baby, helping him with his latch and controlling the supplemental system - a formula iv attached to my bra strap that drips into his mouth while nursing), and taking fenugreek and blessed thistle which is really jacking up my tummy, still yet I only get my pathetic few drops of milk! Its so depressing! I really wanted this to work but it seems everything is against me. I've been told that between the bit if trauma with the tremors, severe muscle spasms during recovery and the ridiculous swelling likely have delayed my mill production. I'm doing everything I can but fear my window of opportunity is closing : (




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Registered: 01-04-2007
Sat, 11-27-2010 - 5:47am

Hi Jen,

It sounds like your trying hard and it must be frustrating not to have the result you want just yet.

Please stick it at - no such thing as too late! Nearly all women are able to build up their supply it can just take time and effort. Beleiving you can do it will help too!

Breastfeeding is all about supply and demand. The more baby is at the breast, the more he will stimulate your breast to 'let down' (release the milk) and the more milk that is removed the more that will be made. Offer anytime you think he may be interested.

As for attachment has anyone told you about baby led attachment? I wish I'd known about it when DS was born as I think it would have made things easier for us. Essentially it relys on babys own instints and lets him (or her) attach. You need to try when you are both relaxed (and baby not too hungry).

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Sat, 11-27-2010 - 7:51am

Awww Jen, I'm sure you must be frustrated over this!


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Sat, 11-27-2010 - 9:52am

Oh my god, Jen, I feel your pain, TRUST ME.

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Sat, 11-27-2010 - 10:26am

((((Hugs)))) I wish I had some advice. I always struggled to keep my milk supply up. I had a cysts removed from one breast in my teens and that side is basically useless breast feeding was always struggle for me my boys have to nurse longer and more often then most babies would have. I was never able to pump and I the year goal on one year with any of my boys. I had one son I really was not able to nurse because of I had too much stress going on at the time and he was high strung from the start. Just not being able to get him to nurse because of outside stress in my life I can only imagine what it would be like if I had medical issues from the start. I hope you find the support you need to get you through this rough patch because I can tell it something you really want to do but please know that there are worse things than bottle feeding your baby if it comes to that.

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Sat, 11-27-2010 - 4:28pm

Dear Jen, I am sorry to read about the difficulties in BF. I wish I knew what to say/suggest but I do not so I would just like to send hugs and prayers your way. Hopefully your frustration will go away soon as plenty of milk comes in your b.s

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Sat, 11-27-2010 - 5:07pm

Oh Jen, I feel your pain!!

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Sun, 11-28-2010 - 1:21am


Sorry to hear it's so tough right now! I had absolutely no idea how to BF when I had DS & no one @ the hospital really showed me how, no lc. So when we got home, he wasn't latching & long story short, it was really terrible & he lost a bunch of weight his first week. I had to supplement with formula after that while I got my supply up. I saw a lc, took thistle (gross!) & pumped like heck. The only thing I will say is that it finally worked out for us in the end, but it was HARD. I cried,

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Sun, 11-28-2010 - 6:51am

First off, congrats.

Secondly, Im sorry you're having a tough time. I just wanted to say dont feel bad if it doesnt work.

My DD was horrid @ nursing from day 1. I was a wreck because of it. I had every LC seeing me & they would run in & pop her on & leave & she would come off. She did not latch well & I think my milk supply sucked as well. She then had to be readmitted for jaundice & I had to supplement with formula. I know I felt like I was failing as a mother & I just wished someone would have said, its OK if you cant do this! You tried.

I stayed over nite in the hospital after having a 4th degree tear in a chair as thats all they had for me so I could nurse her. I had to hold a drip of formula up to put near my nipple while I was trying to get her to latch. Then she would just cry cuz her suck was wrong. UGH. I was a wreck. Oh ya & even when my milk came in I got squat pumping.

Anyway, my point, dont stress about it. Enjoy your baby & he'll be fine if he doesnt get BM. Dont feel guilty.

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Sun, 11-28-2010 - 9:40am


Unfortunently the main issue is the formula.

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Mon, 11-29-2010 - 12:31am

I'm so sorry you're having such a tough time, hun. {{{{{HUGS}}}}} I agree with Kerri though...it's a supply and demand thing...try to get him to nurse as much as you can....even if it's just a few minutes per hour, then follow it up with formula if he still seems unsatisfied. But try to give him the formula in something else other than a bottle nipple...ie. a medicine dropper, or something similar.