crazy unwarranted fears anyone??

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crazy unwarranted fears anyone??
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Wed, 03-30-2011 - 9:12pm

ok, this is going to sound crazy, but I really need to know if anyone else has crazy unwarranted fears? I mean, like I fear someone will drug me and cut my baby out and kidnap them at the end of my pregnancy... I fear that I'll get to the end, and the baby will die during birth... I fear that the baby will just fall out and I won't notice and they'll be trying to find the h/b with no luck so they'll do an u/s and say "there's no baby"... I fear that someone will kidnap my baby from the hospital... and so on...

There's no reason for these fears, just my mind running wild - but it kind of scares me because when pregnant with Landon, I feared preeclampsia and something happening, and preeclampsia killed my baby.

I really hope this is just my overactive mind playing horrid tricks on me.

Does anyone else have crazy fears??


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Wed, 03-30-2011 - 10:54pm
Torie! You are not alone...I had ridiculous fears throughout, but I had high blood pressure to begin with and so my fears were fueled much like yours are and will be! I knew going into the pregnancy that I could come out with nothIng in my arms or a sick baby in the NICU. I can't even explain the fear I had the entire time and so I can only imagine the fear you are having! I just want to wrap this bubble around you that protects you and your LO from here forward (all the ladies here)! Hang in there and I'm hoping of all hopes that this is the end of the line for you.
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Wed, 03-30-2011 - 11:09pm
Torie, I have had some very strange fears. They started coming on after the birth of my 1st baby. I do think it happens to some women. I still sometimes get afraid I will die in some unexplained way overnight, leaving my children without anyone to care for them while my husband is gone overnight on one of his business trips. I used to be afraid that the earth would stop orbiting the sun, and I'd fly off the face of the Earth because of the loss of gravity. My BFF told me that after she had her 1st, she couldn't watch horror movies anymore because she was more afraid of death. I'm so sorry hun. It really is awful. It's taken me a long time to be able to suppress them enough.
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Wed, 03-30-2011 - 11:32pm
Sounds like hormones running amuck! I'm with you though. I take my BP about 10 times a day and have been driving my doc crazy. I am 35 weeks now and the closer I get to D-day, the more frightened I am that I am going to lose him. Like things are getting less safe every minute even though I know it would be better for him to stay put another couple of weeks. I get what you are saying! The other thing that terrifies me is really stupid. With my other kids I went through a bout of terrible insomnia. I would do labor 20 times not to have that awful insomnia. It always came on after being ill and I got sick two days ago. I haven't slept much since. I'm afraid to try sleeping because I am afraid it won't happen. So dumb. I know this is hormones for sure because it always starts suddenly and ends suddenly. I am seriously taking a ride on the crazy train in the meantime though. Arghhhhhh.

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Thu, 03-31-2011 - 10:38am
My midwife thinks I'm super funny with all of my doomsday planning. I am not finding out the gender, but I'm having the u/s tech write it down, and then I'll hide it in my room along with my top names. This is in case my husband and I both die before the baby is born. If I died while pregnant, no one would ever get to find out the gender of the baby or the name. I don't think that an autopsy would be that thorough. I started getting crazy about that one after an acquaintance died only a week before her planned c/s. She had announced the gender and name, so the baby was honored as a separate person, but if she hadn't found out, no one would have known. Sorry if that story was scary. She didn't die of anything having to do with pregnancy.
I've also watched those TV specials on moms whose babies were cut out of them. Scary stuff! I don't really trust a lot of people already...
One more thing: When my younger sister had her second child, the baby was transferred by ambulance to another hospital. I came to pick her up, and we had to take the empty car seat. I was waiting for my sister to be discharged, holding the empty car seat, and these nurses kept walking by a looking at me suspiciously. I was eight months pregnant, and I guess I looked like one of those women who fake pregnancy and then try to steal a baby from the hospital. I thought it was kind of funny.
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Thu, 03-31-2011 - 10:52am
thanks for letting me know I'm not the only one...

I'm also fearful that I'm going to have to poop and strain so much that my baby comes out.
I've also had fear (when it's cold out) that we'll slide off the road or something right when I'm taking a drink of water, the water will spill on me and I'll freeze to the car and not be able to get out.

They're stupid I know.

I wonder if high bp has anything to do with it?? I mean, my bp will hopefully remain controlled with meds, but I do take it like a hundred times a day - and a hint of a headache, omg that's like death. That was my first symptom of pre-e the same day that it killed my Landon. I'm thinking that I don't have to even worry about pre-e for quite a few weeks, but how can I not worry??? I'm a paranoid mess...


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Thu, 03-31-2011 - 1:59pm
I'm still afraid every time I drive over a bridge. I remember a few years ago in Minneapolis, when a bridge completely collapsed killing all kinds of people. I'm always afraid that will happen to me.

Torie, I'm so glad they're keeping a very close eye on your blood pressure. Maybe you won't even have high blood pressure this time. A lot of time pre-e happens to first time moms. I had high bp with DS but not with DD. But, definitely glad they are keeping a close eye on you! This will NOT happen to you again!
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Thu, 03-31-2011 - 3:13pm

Torie, I just want you to know that I pray for you every day.

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Thu, 03-31-2011 - 5:36pm
Ya, they are normal. At least for me.
I still have them with DD at times.
They are our precious babes & we want them safe & with us always. I hadnt even had a loss when I had those thoughts with DD in utero.

I think having a loss only makes it that much harder.

This time around I freak over everything.
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Thu, 03-31-2011 - 6:47pm
I've had the poop worry...I laugh now, but sure didn't then!

I know what you mean about the headaches, scary stuff and being that you lost Landon makes it even more scary for you! Stinks that having headaches is a symptom of pregnancy too. I would constantly look at my feet and knew that a headache would be a bad sign.

Now I'm freaked about everything! So scared somethings going to take him away from me! I can't believe my PAL fear is following me into his infancy! Not only that, but I've had some bad headaches in the last week that have me wondering if my BP Meds aren't working, which then leads me to worry about having an aneurysm in my sleep and my poor kids are left without a mom!

Praying so hard for you Torie...that you get to have your LO in your arms!
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Thu, 03-31-2011 - 7:27pm
YOu are not alone, I'm terrified every day. Every cramp I feel and every time I don't feel nauseous I think its over. Ive been analyzying everything. I sneezed and thought I'd dislodge the embryo.

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