The Fear

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Registered: 01-22-2010
The Fear
Mon, 02-14-2011 - 3:32am

When are you supposed to feel safe? When do you get the feelin that makes you sure you're gonna get a baby at the end of this? Everytime my PAL brain starts to fade, I hear of someone losin there LO at the stage I'm at. A celebrity over here in England (I'm guessin you guys won't know her over there) just lost hers at 7 months. Hadn't had any movements for a few days and U/S confirmed her little boy had no HB. She then had to give birth to her poor poor little baby. I am now so frantic about feelin baby move and just wish I could have my baby now so that I could see it and know it is safe.

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Registered: 02-19-2007
Mon, 02-14-2011 - 8:09am
Sorry :( That is awful about that celebrity.
Obviously you are farther than me, I just dont think it goes away.
Im constantly looking at stories of ppl who are where I am or further that lose their babies. I have to stop myself sometimes.
Having twins I feel like its double the worry & extra problems that can occur so Im constantly wondering what is going on.
Im just hoping Ive done my time in the pain arena & I can catch a break.
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Registered: 10-14-2008
Mon, 02-14-2011 - 9:11am

You are not alone...I am 32 weeks and still cant let go of fear! PAL brain and hearing devastating stories of late losses definately throws fear in my head too! It is sad...that I have spent the whole pregnancy worried...yes I have had some wonderful calm times too...and I feel sooooo blessed to be where I am in this pregnancy! But fear has taken away alot of the innocent times for is hard to commit to a name ...I havent set up her room yet...and I waitied a really long time to tell anyone! Dh didnt even know until 8 weeks! ALls we can do is pray and trust that our babies will be here sooner than we realize...and enjoy the last leg of that possible?

iVillage Member
Registered: 11-27-2007
Mon, 02-14-2011 - 2:28pm

I'm about 6 weeks behind you and it hasn't left for me either. I am always making sure I feel movement and I tell myself that I last felt movement on in my pregnancy. Even getting past viability, which is an awesome milestone, hasn't put my PAL brain at rest. I still have a hard time believing we'll come home with a baby....

iVillage Member
Registered: 05-13-2007
Mon, 02-14-2011 - 2:45pm

I think all of us have heard too many horror stories to ever really feel safe. ((((HUGS))) I also think we tend to be more high strug parents. It just the nature of the PAL brain.

iVillage Member
Registered: 05-27-2009
Mon, 02-14-2011 - 7:44pm

This is something that I have had to struggle with...the fear of loss at any point in pregnancy has me freaked out.

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Registered: 04-19-2010
Sun, 02-20-2011 - 9:27pm

It went away for me the second she was born and not a minute earlier.