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Registered: 06-28-2011
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Wed, 02-01-2012 - 12:58pm

I don't know what to do or who to talk to so I thought I would reach out here for some help, advice, anything!

I am finding myself completely depressed and I have no idea why. I am 29 weeks 3 days pregnant with a healthy son, I have a supporting husband and a beautiful daughter. But yet I find myself so depressed. I get so discouraged with how I feel everyday because I can't do much without getting winded, tired and/or having contractions.

I know that in about a month will be the year anniversary of when we found out our 2nd pregnancy had ended with a miscarriage at 10 weeks. I don't know if the residual feelings I have regarding that are coming back up or not.

I'm also scared that I'm depressed because something is going to happen with this pregnancy. Am I crazy?! This depression is really dragging me down and making me completely unmotivated to do anything else. I am really feeling lost today.

Thank you for reading.

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Registered: 01-22-2010
In reply to: rian_eidson
Wed, 02-01-2012 - 1:16pm

Sorry you're feeling so down. It defo makes you feel depressed when anniversary dates are approaching, it brings back all the feelings we have when we first lose our LOs and unfortunately, even when we are expecting again, it doesn't take away the losses we have already suffered.

It can be very frustratin when you can't get things done due to tiredness and contractions, especially when your due date is approaching and there's lots to do. Maybe you could write a plan of what you have left to do and do a small amount each day/week. Stickin to that may reduce the risk of you gettin too tired or gettin contractions. It might help with your lack of motivation too, to just need to find a small amount of motivation to get a little job done.

You definitely are not crazy and depression doesn't mean anythin is gonna happen to your baby either. You are gettin so close to the end now, it is all gonna be worth it when you hold your little boy in your arms. HTH *hugs*

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Registered: 06-28-2011
In reply to: rian_eidson
Wed, 02-01-2012 - 2:13pm

Thank you so much for your encouraging words and advice!!

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Registered: 05-11-2010
In reply to: rian_eidson
Thu, 02-02-2012 - 11:00am

Rian - Sorry to hear you've been feeling depressed.