So feeling rather anxious and frustrated today.
I'm sorry you are so anxious. Until baby is big enough to feel movin, there really doesn't seem to be any reliable way of checkin they are ok. The spottin can't be helpin either, or that midwife! Talk about reassuring! I was gonna suggest you buy a doppler, it means when your anxiety levels start to get high you can have 5 minutes lie down and listen to baby's hb and hopefully feel lots better afterwards.
I would suggest a doppler too. I know it really eased my mind to have one especially when I couldn't feel my LO moving yet. And I wouldn't worry about the weight gain at all. Some women are just different. I am currently 34 weeks pregnant and I have only put on 12 lbs but my baby is healthy and big! :-)
Thank you all for your comforting words and encouraging vibes!
It's great that you're havin a good day today,