PAL brain really never stops, huh?

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PAL brain really never stops, huh?
Sun, 01-09-2011 - 1:00pm

So here we are at 36 weeks and some change and I can't stop worrying that something is going to go horribly wrong.

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Sun, 01-09-2011 - 1:34pm

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Sun, 01-09-2011 - 9:58pm
So sorry that this is happening and no it doesn't stop!

For me, it was constant and even prevented me from preparing for LO's arrival. I was extremely nervous when my in-laws brought over the crib and tried to put them off for as long as I possibly could (which was a month before his arrival).

It is no fair and heartbreaking that our pregnancies couldn't be carefree and uneventful, but we were chosen for whatever reason to go through this!

I think it made me appreciate life so much more and even when DS is screaming his little head off at me to nurse or has some gas; I smile and enjoy that I can hear his cries, rather than get frustrated or anxious.

I asked my friend (who also had a m/c two year's ago and went onto have a DS last March), when does the worry stop? Her response was you always worry, but around 7 months she started to relax more. Unfortunately, I never was able to relax: even with her encouragement and my OB's!

You just want so badly to enjoy and have peace and then the PAL brain kicks in to remind us that the unknown is out there.

Take care and have comfort knowing you are not alone. I know you will be holding your little DD soon and smiling at her same cries that I am now with my little guy.

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Mon, 01-10-2011 - 11:37am

Awww....sorry you're feeling this way, Kathryn. I totally understand. I think we worry until we have that healthy, screaming baby in our arms.

Hang in there, hun. Not too much longer to go. Course, then, there's the worrying about your child....that lasts forever! ;)

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Registered: 02-19-2007
Tue, 01-11-2011 - 7:39am
Dont worry you will know if your water breaks even if you are in the shower. When mine broke with DD there was a large pop before I felt water. I also waited several hours after my water broke b4 calling midwife. I also had the option once at hospital to go home & wait to see what happened. YOu are OK for 24 hrs after water breaks.
I did not feel any contractions or barely when my water broke. We went to Starbucks & ate breakfast on the way to hospital cuz I knew they wouldnt give me anything once I got to hospital. :) MMMmmm food ;)

As far as taking home a baby after carrying him/her for 9m. Totally crazy! You think how are you letting me leave with this teeny being when I dont know what Im doing! It does work out though & you do what you think is right & chances are things will be fine.
My DD had jaundice & I just assumed her color was what babies look like. Duh! Her Ped gasped when he saw her! So if your baby looks like a Simpson go to the Dr ;) Thats my advice.
Hang in there you will do great, now is the time when you start to flip out! All natural PAL or not.
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Registered: 08-16-2007
Tue, 01-11-2011 - 4:26pm

Dont feel bad. As each new stage of pregnancy comes along, it just gives us new, different things to worry about! I always have awful, terrible nightmares in the 3t about how labor and delivery might go horribly, tragically wrong. But you know what? None of them came true for me. I hope the same is true for you as well, and that the rest of your pregnancy is a breeze. Hang in there, it's almost over! It will be suc ha sweet relief to have your little girl in your arms...!

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Registered: 04-19-2010
Wed, 01-12-2011 - 12:12pm

Thanks everyone, for making me feel better (or at least not crazy :) )!

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Registered: 01-22-2010
Wed, 01-12-2011 - 1:03pm

I think your baby is cooked enough now, my sister had her second at 36 weeks and she was absolutely perfect!