Telling people

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Registered: 08-29-2010
Telling people
Thu, 11-10-2011 - 12:06am
I'm having a difficult time. I'm not wanting to tell people I'm pregnant and DH doesn't understand. It took me some time to figure out why I have issues with telling. People are 200% more excited than I am. I have worked so hard to keep myself disconnected from this baby that I don't really feel it's real. I'm hoping when I can finally feel it, it will be different. Will it??? Will I always hold back just a bit?
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Registered: 04-20-2008
Thu, 11-10-2011 - 7:45am
I understand what you're feeling, and I'm the same way. I'm 18 weeks now, and more people other than family still dont know. Up until the 17 week mark, I tried to stay as disconnected as I could ( we lost our DS at 16 weeks) I think that when I passed that milestone, I had to decide to be excited.I think that I had to realize that it wasnt fair for this baby for me not to be excited about it. I'm still holding back, but I'm trying really hard not to .
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Registered: 10-27-2011
Thu, 11-10-2011 - 7:48am

I'm 19 weeks and still holding back.

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Registered: 05-11-2010
Thu, 11-10-2011 - 8:18am

In my case, we told right away, but whenever we spoke to people about it, we used language that was always inclusive of the possibility of losing another pregnancy.

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Thu, 11-10-2011 - 12:11pm


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Registered: 06-22-2008
Thu, 11-10-2011 - 2:32pm

I am in the same boat right now. DF is soo excited and is already thinking up names and we are only 8 weeks. I would love to be as positive as him =[ We told everyone early on. I didn't want to hide it, everyone had known we lost a pregnancy before and if I loose this one I will want to be able to grieve without hiding it.

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Registered: 08-29-2010
Thu, 11-10-2011 - 3:47pm
Thank you everyone for responding. It's nice to know I'm not alone with these feelings. I was feeling that something was wrong with me and didn't understand how I wasn't even close to being as excited as others.
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Registered: 04-13-2010
Thu, 11-17-2011 - 10:16pm

I just had mine and I still feel like it's not quite real, like I shouldn't get too attached because something might happen. I don't think I hold back really but I don't act all overly excited like others do, they're like "omg I'm so happy for you" and all giddy and stuff, I kind of just smile and say me too... holding back??? maybe, maybe not, IDK.

But, I did enjoy my pregnancy, you need to. I tried to enjoy every little part of it because if something happened, I didn't want to have all memories of a fearful pregnancy, I wanted to have some happy memories.

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