Scared after I broke the "rules"

iVillage Member
Registered: 09-17-2008
Scared after I broke the "rules"
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Sat, 01-05-2013 - 9:46pm

I see that not many people are on these boards anymore....that's too bad. A couple years ago we had a m/c and I loved the support I had here. Now I'm here with a new quandry....my last "baby" will be 2 this spring. I'm 36 and we were done. We were just watching my cycle and kind of doing the opposite for ttc and what do you know, I just got a bfp. I am happy for that but scared to death. Since we were supposed to be done, I've not been good to my body....I take anti anxiety meds that I know aren't safe. I also had ibu for a couple of days. I even stained a bookshelf and it's right in my bedroom odor and all. To top it off I soaked in a hot tub a couple of times. So now I'm afraid of having done damage when I didn't even realize I should've been more careful!! I'm afraid of another m/c that would totally be my fault or a baby that has severe problems because of what I've done.

Does anyone out there have any thoughts, suggestions? I know I can't even really talk to a dr yet because they don't usually see the heartbeat until 6 wks. Besides I have a stupid dr office (only one available....blahh!!) and they won't even really talk to me until 12 wks. So in the meantime I'm freaking out!!


Community Leader
Registered: 01-22-2010
Sun, 01-06-2013 - 7:51am

Congratulations on your BFP! Try not to worry about 'breaking the rules'. Lots and lots of woman do things before they know they are pg that they wouldn't have otherwise, I'm sure you haven't caused any damage. How far along are you? Oh and welcome to the board!

iVillage Member
Registered: 05-18-2010
Sun, 01-06-2013 - 2:11pm

First off congrats on your BFP! Second don't worry yourself. Like PP said a lot of people don't know and do these kind of things and everything is fine. My mom didn't know she was pregnant with my sister till she was 6 months along. I'm sure she did things she shouldn't have nd my sister is fine.

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iVillage Member
Registered: 09-17-2008
Tue, 01-08-2013 - 10:08am

Thank you, ladies! It's just so hard to be patient and be positive as I'm sure you all know!! I think I'm only about 5 weeks. I hope that I get to stay here for the whole 9 months:)


iVillage Member
Registered: 06-02-2012
Thu, 01-10-2013 - 9:38pm

congrats on your BFP!! & I wouldnt be too worried i got pregnant 1 week after my miscarriage so I wasnt thinking I was pregnant at all, especially so quickly and I broke a lot of rules.  A few of my girl friends took me out for sushi and drinks to try and cheer me up after my loss and I was freaking out about it once I found out I was pregnant.  I talked to my OB and she said not to worry as many women break the rules in the first month because unless they were actively trying they had no clue.  Good luck and congrats!!