24, just moved back home 5 weeks pregnant

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24, just moved back home 5 weeks pregnant
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Fri, 04-01-2011 - 1:33pm
The guy I'm seeing is the only one who knows and he begged me to get an abortion. I realize I'm in no position to have a child and that everyone is going to be disappointed in me for the 1,000th time this year. I wish I knew how to do right by myself and the baby :(
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Fri, 04-01-2011 - 1:42pm
"seeing" is a loose term when referring to my situation with the father.. As to assume I probably won't be "seeing" him ever again
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Fri, 04-01-2011 - 3:41pm
(((HUGS))) I'm glad you found the board. You do have several options, you just need to figure out what is the best one for you. I'm sorry you are are doing this on your own, but remember that just because he doesn't want to be there to support you doesn't mean that he doesn't need to help out financially whatever you decide.

How is your family going to react? Will they support you if you decide to have your baby?

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Fri, 04-01-2011 - 4:08pm
My family has a history of abortions but my parents had me very young. My parents are also having financial issues and the stress at home has been pretty intense. A few weeks ago (before I found out I was pregnant), my dad made a harsh comment pertaining to how un-accomplished I am compared to my parents at my age. Needless to say, things aren't great for us.
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Fri, 04-01-2011 - 4:12pm
I'm sorry :( Have you made an appointment with a doctor yet to see what they can offer?

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Fri, 04-01-2011 - 4:27pm
Yea in 3 weeks I see a doctor. Hopefully things are more clear by then
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Fri, 04-01-2011 - 9:56pm
Hugs to you! I'm sorry you are feeling this way and he's begging you to abort. Only you can make that decision. Have you talked to any planned parenthood type places that can offer you information on all your choices? (Abortion, adoption, or keeping the baby). You are still early which is helpful at this point.

Also there are things out there to help people in your financial situation too if you chose to keep the baby. There are programs to help you get back on your feet and raise the child. Also if you chose adoption there are good agencies that can help you both during and after the pregnancy. And if you do chose to abort, make sure you seek out (even if online) a good support group. There are lots of feelings involved with any decision but make sure that YOU are the one that ultimately makes the decision and that you are comfortable with your decision when you make it. None of them are the wrong answer if its what is best for you.

Just know we are here and not judging. Every situation is different and all of us need support!

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Thank you Dedi and Kelly for my
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Sat, 04-02-2011 - 12:07am
Thanks for all your support everyone. That was my initial doom and gloom response to the Dads reaction. I know there is hope for me and my baby. And for now, I'm gonna focus on being healthy, happy, and proactive.
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Sat, 04-02-2011 - 4:10am
You're welcome! Keep us posted on how things are going with you, what you do decide. Glad you checked back with us! I think its a very scary thing when it first happens and especially with a negative baby dad reaction makes it hard to see any light. HUGS!

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Thank you Dedi and Kelly for my
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Sat, 04-02-2011 - 6:57am
Always hope honey!! I had my first one at 18 and of course people may look down on you but the choice at the end of the day is yours. I'm prego with # 2 at 23, and I think I'm doing damn good. Have faith in urself and make the best out of ur situation. Private message me if u have to talk. Ur only a week further along than me. Hope to hear from u soon.