37, Single, pregnant and horribly lonely...please don't let me be the only one who feels like this!

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37, Single, pregnant and horribly lonely...please don't let me be the only one who feels like this!
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Sun, 03-20-2011 - 7:52pm

I just feel like if I don't post somewhere or blog somewhere that I'm going to lose my mind.

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Hello! My name is Christine and like you, I am single and pregant :) It is certainly a tough situation... but you are not alone! Like you, my babies father was a friend of mine for many years, although we dated for a year prior to breaking up. I know it is lonely and sad, but one thing that helped me tremendously was when I stopped viewing the preganncy as a problem and more as the blessing that it is.

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(((HUGS))) I'm so sorry that you are having so many mixed feelings about your pregnancy. It doesn't help at all that your family isn't being supportive, they should be there for you right now. You should discuss this with your doctor about how you are feeling, you do have a lot going on and it does help to to talk and a place to work out your emotions.

Having a baby does not mean that you'll never find a man to love you, they are still out there and might even be excited at the chance to be a father. We are here for you, so you are not alone in this.

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YOU ARE NOT ALONE! I am right there with you. I am 33 years old and have moved to a town where I know very few people. 2 years ago I left an abusive relationship and the man killed himself. We have one son, who is now 8 years old. I have very little family and only a few friends here. After two years I let someone in my life and heart. We became pregnant, it was an accident. I even offered to do the unthinkable and he refused. Didn't want to do that anyways, could not live with myself had I done that. Anyways, after 4.5 months, he decided to leave me alone to do this. The day after the ultrasound where we found out that it is a boy. Let me point out that this is a grown man near forty, with a job and no drug problems or anything like that. Just recently divorced before we started seeing eachother and therefore

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Welcome to the board mandygayle78. I'm sorry that you are going through the same thing, (((HUGS))). It doesn't make any sense why he would walk away from the both of you like that.

You can do this, for both of your boys, and we'll be there to support you. Have you talked to your doctor about how you are feeling? I just hate to see you hurting so bad, continue to talk about it to get out your feelings.

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Welcome to the board Mandygayle. Sorry you are going through all this right now. Like Melissa said have you mentioned this to your dr? Because a lot of times if you are feeling this way during pregnancy you are at an increased risk for Postpartum Depression which can be serious especially if not treated. I'm sorry this guy has made you feel this way. You sound like a wonderful person, and dealing with this all isn't good for you.

If you do chose to date there are men out there that will gladly accept you and your children. They will love them like their own and be a great asset to you. There are plenty of jerks, but I have seen firsthand the good ones come to people so gives hope!! HUGS!! Keep us posted on how you are doing?

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Registered: 04-02-2011

Hi,

If this helps, you are not alone.

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Welcome to the board D. Thanks for posting! Good luck at your appt with the testing. Hopefully you get the news you want. When is your appt?

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My appointment is this Tuesday. I am not sure that he will do anything other than some bloodwork at this one. It is all very overwhelming at this point. There are so many things to think about and prepare for.

Thank you for responding.
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Will be thinking of you on Tuesday! It is very overwhelming, but maybe if you can make a list of things to worry about now, what can wait, etc then it won't overwhelm as much. Just a day at a time right now while you are figuring it out. Let us know how your appt goes! HUGS!

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